Do you think before you say something, or decide to take some action?

Question

Do you weigh the pros and cons, before speaking or acting?

Do you care what the consequences of your words and actions might be, for ALL people involved, including yourself?

Do you care??

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Do you care for the other people involved or do you think first or most of yourself?

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Answer 1

Yes, I almost always think before saying something, unless it's in the heat of the moment and I've had all that I can stand. Then, I wll speak first, and think later. Most of the time however, I do try to weigh the pros and cons of what I'm going to say, because I absolutely hate hurting anyone's feelings. I also hate confrontations of any kind, so will do my best to avoid them. When I was younger, I would simply keep my opinions to myself, in order not to offend or upset anyone. As I've gotten older, I've become much more open about my feelings and am not afraid to state exactly how I feel about something. If that means saying something that I know could possibly be upsetting to someone else, I will do my best to explain my actions and try to be as tactful as I possibly can.

I care very much about the consequence of my words and actions, but I care more about wrong being done to others. If I didn't speak up and state what how I felt about a situation, I would feel that I was ignoring the situation simply to save myself from a possible confrontation and to keep from getting out of my own comfort zone.

If I feel that there is no way that my words or actions can make any difference in the long run, then I will keep quiet. But, if a wrong is being done to someone close to me, I will certainly speak up. I do try to be tactful and certainly don't like lowering myself by being crude and hateful.

We live in a difficult world, Moon, and I love peace as much as anyone else does. Fortunately, I've not had many confrontations in my life, and I'm very thankful for that. But, when a situation arises where I feel it's important for me to speak up, or to help someone who's being dragged through the mud mercilessly, then I will certainly speak up.

I'm human and certainly do have regrets about things I've said and done, but life is too short to dwell on these regrets. I do try to learn from past mistakes, and hopefully have. :)

Answer 2

"Hello Moonriver!
Gosh, when I was about 13 or 14 years old, I thought mostly about myself. Over the years I've come to understand more clearly, each day, of the importance others have become to me.
Now, I comprehend what some say about "youth" being wasted on the young. If only I had the maturity at 15 as that which I have now, I believe I would have advanced socially, economically and spiritually much further towards who I will become.
I'm not alone in my endeavors. I'm just an average person, but, my care of others has grown tantamount to care of myself because I see so much of myself, now in others.
I make serious attempts in discovering any potential consequences of my words and actions. I, like many, many others ... care."

Answer 3

Sometimes i do think before i speak, but unfortunately like everyone else, sometimes i do stick my foot in my mouth and say the wrong thing to the wrong person....all you can do is apologize though, and hope they dont think any worse of you for saying something dumb.....

I always think in regards to consequences vs. actions.....i think if something is said or done to make another feel bad, then yes we should face up to what we have done, there is no other way of getting over, or moving past the incident otherwise.

But in regards to that - i also think that once someone has done the wrong thing, said they were sorry and meant it, then i really do think that others should just let it go, why punish further when they have accepted the guilt that goes with the wrongdoing......

Answer 4

I usually talk as I think and write what I think and it would only be what I'd say.
I'm often told I should not say what I think because I never beat around the bush- I say it as it is.
I think of the consequences yes, but we never know if what we do is right at the time do we, so I try to follow what I believe is right, at the time and then hope it is right, if not I'm sure there is something to learn by the mistake.

I believe in taking chances, so sometimes will follow that path, and take a chance if I feel as if I should-then can only hope I did the right thing by my earlier choices made

Answer 5

To a certain extent I try to be proactive in my conversation and choose my words and silence...in other words I censor. But there are times in my life when I don't care and I don't think and I say stupid hurtful things. It usually has to do with stress...too much happens out of my control and I just react or fight back to gain back some control. In doing so, I usually alienate myself farther.

Answer 6

yes as much as possible!
i always think as much as i can before speaking or sayin out any words to other people...
it's because sometimes we don't realize that we have offended
already someone without doing it purposely...
i always care on what people might say to me bec. for me
long term friendship & having true friends are very important to me....

Answer 7

Routinely while speaking to anyone I don`t think much. I am a man of limited words. So I hurt none. Before doing anything important like buying a costly item ,changing a job I always think deep. All my fears of life did not come true though.

Answer 8

Yes, I do think before I speak. At times I over analyze what it is I'm about to say or do, and then don't say it or do it, I talk myself out of it.

Answer 9

i did not use to think before saying and doing something but that resulted in huge mistakes which i am ashamed of.
yes you should think first, to prevent the possible consequences. others judge us by the things we do and what we say.

Answer 10

Yes I do try to think it through first
Yes I do care
I do not like to upset people
I try to be tactful