I and my friend, graduated from University two years ago, wea re now sharing a flat and both of us are working.The problem with my freind is that he likes having sex with almost every gal he comes across with,he even comes home with defferent types of gals almost every day,this makes me feel very uncomfortable as our neighbours now think that the two of us behave like that. i ve sat him down and talked to him about this bit he does not change. He behaved like this even at University.
The other problem with my freind is that he does not want to contribute to buying our food in our hse, no cleaning and he wants to bring gals in a dirty hse wth no food.
Pliz help me what can i do with such a chracter?
2006-09-10 22:52:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You cannot help your friend. You have done your part but, if he is not willing you cannot do anything about his problem. You better pack up your things and leave him or let him leave your place. He is not a worthy of your concerns.
2006-09-10 22:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Gem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly speaking, I don't see how you can be friends to begin with. If you were friends, the guy would be a bit more considerate towards you and your needs. If I were you, I wouldn't stay there another day, not because of what the neighbours might think, but for the basic hygiene reasons. I can't think of anything "to do with such a character" except for ignoring it, because if by this age he still has no notion of words like respect and decency, there isn't much you can change. Hope you find a better flatmate soon. There are a lot of nice guys out there, good luck.
2006-09-10 23:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by ignivia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him a photo of a person suffering from a severe case of an STD.
as far as helping around the house, tell him that you're not his maid. in fact, you're not his father so it shouldn't be your job to tr to change him. I'd kick him out or move out if he's affecting your life in a negative way.
2006-09-10 23:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by pureessence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are seeing things as you would like them to be and not what is. Get yourself a place to live or share with another person. Why do think you should change him. If he wants to change then he will. It is not up to you to tell him how to live his life. If you don't like what he does then go some other place. GET IT.
2006-09-11 00:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try writing him a long letter, explaining everything carefully and thoughtfully. Sometimes this has more of an impact than a conversation. Don't forget to remind him about STD's.
2006-09-10 22:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by winni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being friendly with him. let him live his life the way he wants. if u are not able reform him there is no use telling him. move out & stay separately.or with other decent friends. this fellow is living on your money. leave him before u get a bad name because of his bad behaviour.
2006-09-10 23:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do like him for 2-3weeks. exactly like himself, no buying food and no cleaning and a little leave him alone with problem with no help.
2006-09-10 22:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by arezoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live your life and let him live his. If you really can't stand it then you need to move out.
2006-09-10 22:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by live2ride 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him
2006-09-10 23:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by har 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋