I have 2 beautiful step kids..along with 3 of my own.. ive been with my husband for almost 4 years now.. I know that his x wife is a "piece of work" but man some of the things she does is beyond imagination for me at times.. I try very hard to be nice and civil to this woman.. i treat her kids as if they were my own..when she's needed someone to watch them for her i always say yes.. but this woman..omg..she drives me nuts.. She lies to the kids..about me and my husband to try and get them to hate us..She use to go back to my husband and say i wasnt nice enough to her..when i thought everything went great.. her son was sick once, and i called her and asked her what she would like for me to give to him , she said Tylenol so i did, she picked him up later that day took him to the docs had them run a test to see if i over medicated him..(i only gave him one dose of what she told me to give him), when the kids have stayed during the week, i sign the homework papers as the teachers request.
2006-09-10 20:32:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She wigs out if i sign the homework papers..... although im the only adult in the house at the time, and she asked for them to stay with us.. she'd rather her child get in trouble then have me sign home work papers.. I dont know what more i could do, to be a good step mother, but i feel like im fighting her every step of the way..
2006-09-10 20:34:05 · update #1
Oh and she's really ticked off at me cause i finally got sick of her just walking into my house when ever she felt like it, and i asked her "NICELY" to wait outside untill someone invites her in..
2006-09-10 20:35:06 · update #2
I just feel really bad for the kids, doesnt she realize that shes mentally abusing the kids by actting this way, making them feel they have to pick and choose, im not trying to take her place.. im just trying to be a good step mom and a part of their lives.. but shes to stupid to realize how badly she's messing with her own kids heads.. they are so confused they dont know what to do..
2006-09-10 20:39:18 · update #3
My husband untill recently was over the road, car hauler and she knew this but when she had things to do she'd call him and ask if "I" could watch the kids for her, so she knew he wasnt home..but still intrusted their care to me..and my husband works.. just like most other men work... and she knows they are with me most of the time, and she LOVES using me as her babysitter, and i dont mind except theres always a backlash from her after wards.. my husband puts up with her b.s. because he wants the kids with us as much as possible..
2006-09-10 21:07:22 · update #4
Hi Preciosa, You are fighting his x every day. Sounds like she is trying to cause serious problems with you and your husband.You need to have a heart to heart talk with your husband,and get this lieing piece of work out of your house.There is no reason why you should have to put up with his X.Your husband needs to make some kind of arrangements,So only the kids are drop off at your house,without her coming in,and starting some kind of trouble.For crying out loud,Theres no good reason why you have to go through this.
You really are a good person.
Clowmy
2006-09-10 20:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will make this short. Where the hell is their farther? First their farther should have signed the school papers not you. Teachers want parent to see papers or the child's legal guardian. Again where is the farther who should be signing papers. You write everything nice about and I really believe in what you say. But not once did I see where the Dad was involved.
You should back off and let Dad deal with the ex. I think the ex might be pissed off that your so involved and the father seems not to be. That might be the biggest problem.
2006-09-10 20:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, I am only 16 and my opinion may not matter to you at all. But I feel like you should just try to ignore her. Obviously she is being childish and there is no reason why you should stoop down to her level. So just keep your head up and keep being the great mom that you are and I am sure things will work out for you in the end. Don't give up though, good always wins over bad.
2006-09-10 20:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Colleen is correct in one sense,about the baggage-but there must be ground rules here.Seems you put yourself in the firing line quite a bit with this woman,and she's quick to latch on!I wouldnt ever give any child who is not mine any medicines,big can of worms that one..open to all sorts of problems-same as homework,to a lesser extent.There is being helpful and concerned,and there is being overhelpful(seems like it is in your nature to help!)Do just enough to be helpful,no more,no less is my suggestion-and tell your hubby to have more input,and lay the ground rules out with his ex-as for you,try to say NO sometimes!!
2006-09-10 21:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This situation would wear me out aswell.
And after 4 years geeze you would think its would've settled by now.
But it looks like its going to be like this for a long time.....find her a man to take her mind off things.....lol
I dont really know what to suggest, but dont give in to her, keep smiling ( if you can)...
2006-09-10 20:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a situation where nobody would like to be in.
u need to live in with this until kids grow up and understand ur point of view as well.
2006-09-10 22:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kumar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send her an anonymous Thank You card with these words typed inside: "Thanks for making me laugh, you should of been a comedian."
It'll blow her mind wondering who sent that card.
2006-09-10 20:38:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell the ***** to *** off! if she wants a war, then we'll give her a war!!HAHAHAH!do not show mercy! take her down in yr first chance. no, really now, i dislike her.
2006-09-10 20:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by disco ball 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bite your tongue and hold your head high. I know what it's like.
2006-09-10 20:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Cricket 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU married your husband as he was...he came with baggage, YOU have to learn to live with that baggage without btching about it.
2006-09-10 20:35:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋