what is it with porn and men... do you know it makes your woman feel terrible.... at times we can be sexy but most of the time we are running kids to school, doing house work or going to work, sorry we can't take the time bend over in front of you and serve dinner with a domimatrix outfit on..... granted men are visual, so while looking at porn you have to get horny..... yes?????
2006-09-10 20:29:28 · 24 answers · asked by arlene6685 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Arlene,
I suggest you tell him to grow up and be more mature. The effect of watching porn is that it desensatizes the person to what is corrupt, evil, lustful, and ungodly. Lust is one of the "seven deadly" sins which corrupts a soul from being modesty and innocent. The other effect of porn is that it "dehumanizes" the people engaged in it in any way. Our existence in this life is physical but our spiritual home is heaven. When we act upon our animal lusts we diminish our spiritual relationship with God.
Have you ever heard the phrase, "See no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil"? This pertains to our 3 dimensional existence which is physical, mental, and spiritual. When we "see" evil it is a physical act. When we "hear" evil it affects our mental state. When we "speak" evil it is our soul verbalizing itself.
Human sexuality starts mentally and becomes physical when we act upon the fantasies we have. Because we are creatures of habit and you have become "addicted" to porn you will need to keep your mind preoccupied on other projects.
2006-09-10 20:34:58 · answer #1 · answered by Search4truth 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The visual stimulation goes to an animal level, a basic instinct. If we didn't find women attractive, procreation would stop, or at least slow down a lot. Any guy who says he doesn't like porn or a naked woman is probably kidding himself. The difference is a "good" man would not look at porn in front of his lady and respect her feelings. Believe it or not, I actually know some women who enjoy it too! They're rare, but they're out there.
Your comments about being busy in your day to day life hit home. Yes, those things exist, life gets in the way, you work all day and you get tired. Other things take priority and that is a slippery slope! Before you know it, neither one of you are a priority in each other's lives and this stuff starts happening. Ever hear the old saying "too much mother, not enough wife"?Good lovers put each other first, above all else. Under those circumstances, most men have no need for porn. Try serving dinner in a dominatrix costume once before you knock it!
2006-09-11 03:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-27 06:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jorge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't understand why anyone has to watch porn it doesn't make sense to me or my husband I don't like porn and neither does my husband we've been married for 4 years we are happy with eachother we're satisfied with eachother why should men have to watch porn when they already have someone that doesn't make sense to me I mean they already have a woman that they can be with and see naked anytime they want if a man can't be satisfied with just one woman they have no right to be with anyone cause their never going to be satisfied with just one woman their going to have to have their porn and their little fantasy's men who watch porn doesn't know what real is yet I can understand you feeling upset about it I wouldn't want my husband looking at porn either that stuff just isn't right and to who said women do it too well guess what??? they DON'T I know what is fake and what's real and I happen to be one of those women that don't watch porn I'm not into that stuff I rather have the real deal anytime I want to see a man or be with a man I have my husband and that is all I need I don't need porn for me to get turned on I have who I want and that is my husband NOT all men and women like porn some of us know what real is
2006-09-10 21:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Porn is addictive it has been proved it also ruins relationships. It's a proved fact sorry but true...so your man wants visual well when you have your dominatrix outfit on snap his some naughty photo's or do him your own porn workout...and tell him to watch that one only and he might get some more he'll love it.....PS I can understand with being a wife mother worker daughter taxi driver cleaner chef and sports organizer leaves little time to be the sexy you.
2006-09-10 21:10:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DEAR, porn is the fantasy we had, and maybe never came, but
always is here, most of the time turn on some couples, and others,
learn live with it. i'm sure you do a excelent work. But you woman, always forget think on sex, or any sexy think, and some men ask
for it, others just have porn. ok,
2006-09-10 20:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by manny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are wired to have a constantly active sex drive. If it's not being completely satisfied, then porn is a decent enough substitute. I believe you've thus answered your own question. You don't have the time to be all he wants sexually, so well, porn. Human males are by nature unfaithful anyway (not universal of course, but you should expect it). I expect you should be happy he's either willing to turn to porn rather than a real women either through faithfulness to you or sheer laziness or inability to attract women.
2006-09-10 20:34:28 · answer #7 · answered by Sinai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men are hardwired for sex. Men can control themselves but cannot be bothered with waiting until it is convenient or until there is time or until their woman wants to consent. Hardwired. Porn is good. It allows men to release aggression and anxiety by being able to view women similar to you or their loved one and fantasize about the act without having to engage in the negotiation process, which may often result in rejection. Testosterone buildup is not good for peace. Let it be. The alternative is war.
2006-09-10 20:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by Vince P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i recently read a report that said, when in a relationship a womans sex drive starts to wane... this is due to the fact that she doesn't have to HAVE sex to attract or keep a man, because it is always there, so therefore she may lose interest... HOWEVER, it isn't the same for men... even in a relationship, the sex drive remains the same (usually) and in order to deal with that need to have sex, they will look at porn or whatever and get their jollies that way...
if you don't like porn, then find a guy who doesn't either...
2006-09-10 20:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are VERY visual. And you sound like several women that i know. I hate too say this but you feeling bad because we like too look at porn every now and then is your own INSECURITY!! What women dont seem too realize is that regardless if a man is in love, or is being sexually satisfied by his wife or girlfriend we still want too masturbate.
2006-09-10 20:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by bsd300d 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋