I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. We were both married and divorced and have children from previous relationships. We have lived together for about 4 years and my children as well as his one child lives with us. He loves me and my children very much and I do love him and his child as well, but I feel as if I lost my sense of self and who I used to be. One big problem he has is his insecurities and jealousy. If I talk to another man he does not know, like when I run into old friends from school, he gets these jealousy fits. We have had many arguments over this and I have told him he needs to just stop. Our other problem is he gets very stressed out from his job and screams and curses with road rage when he's on his cell with me and I hate heraing him scream and yell like that. He tends to smother me a bit as well, which I don't mind affection but he hovers over my every move. We have many financial problems and his credit is terrible, we'll be evicted soon. Help!
2006-09-10 20:14:23 · 16 answers · asked by swty2crazy2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Pack your kids and move in with someone else...Leave him...
2006-09-10 20:18:47 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it would seem the eviction needs sorting first and stress will probably be a factor in his negative feelings too,,the relationship you have is hidden in family,work,responsibility,,long term the odds are good as you still love and he still loves you so all is not lost,taking any small amount of time you get together can help if you use it to establish the bond between you and him,,learn to relax,the same for him,stress can be a real downer for families so work on what can be fixed now,and what can wait but do try to convey how you feel about him and see if he will listen and give you something back,,one step at a time and if a window presents itself where you and he get some quality time,,take it and spend it as a couple,,not just as mum and dad.
2006-09-11 03:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, for you to leave this man it will have an adverse effect on more than just yourself and him. You must consider the childrens mental well being as well. Therefore, I would suggest counseling, there should be some sort of free or low cost to you programs within your community.
Good luck, honey.
2006-09-11 03:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Scorpio9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest marriage counseling he has issues that need to be taken care of or this marriage is doomed. And YOU take over the paying of the bills, with his bad credit he has proved unreliable in that respect. When he starts yelling and cursing hang up. When he asks why you hung up tell him the truth, and tell him you will continue to do so until he can speak to you decently. As for him seeing you talking to men he doesn't know...has it ever occurred to you to introduce him to some of your male friends?
2006-09-11 03:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about this problem and also he should get a bit easier on life may be pressure from work is turning him like that.Also you should make him believe that his the only person you love make him understand the importance of your relationship.Maybe he'll improve.
2006-09-11 03:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by vandana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like all women when his money finishes, u kick his *** dont you!Ä°ts easy to escape but the hard thing is to be close with him at that period.Remember if he is jelous about you that means he loves you,He is in a stress to feed you but he finds you running with diferenrt man
2006-09-11 03:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling. That all i can suggest. He needs anger and money management. If he doesn't pay the bills will they fall on you? Find another place quick so that the eviction doesn't show up on your rental history.
2006-09-11 03:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by late_sleeper35 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
pray about it. He's just insecure right now. forget about the credit right now, try not to get evicted for the kids sake. call your'e church, go to your local welfare office, call urban league or somebody. you and your boyfriend can probably make it in the streets but not the kids.
2006-09-11 03:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both need counseling, If not his anger will turn on you more severely. He will eventually take the next step in hitting you if he hasn't done it already.
2006-09-11 10:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by aztec_68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pay his attention back, add some spicy stuff in ur both lives... for financial problems get two work jobs if it is nessecary ...
i think it is so sweet that he gets jealous if you talk to ther men, coz it is a strong proof that he still love you and care for you... have fun and dont say that you are not happy, try to understand his needs and satisfy them ...
2006-09-11 03:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by S@D L@Dy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he doesn't trust you at all... You need to cut your losses, and leave... You either need time on your own, to find yourself or to find someone else who trusts you and respects you... Though from the sounds of it, the first option would be preferable... Find yourself and then decide about dating again, or just finding yourself some sex-buddies.. ;)
2006-09-11 03:18:39 · answer #11 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋