Child Custody?

Question

Why do most people think that a mother is more fit to raise a child than a father? My husband and I do more for the child than she does. We feed him, buy his clothes, make sure he bathes, make sure his homework is done, get him from school, and she doesn't even pick him up after she gets off work. We have him 95% of the time and we are still paying her child support even though we do everything for the child. I know we need a lawyer but will it do us any good since most judges think that a mother is more fit to take care of a child than the father?

Caring for that child is not an inconvience for us. I was just wondering why judges assume that a women is more fit to take care of a child than a man. And I'm not trying to take the child away. Her a** doesn't come and get him. That isn't my fault.

We aren't trying to take the kid away. She could still see him. But damn I was just asking a question. But after she gave birth and the kid started school. The father still took him to school, picked him up, made sure homework was done, took him to doctors appointments, stayed up with him when he was sick. And the father didn't tell me this. All of his family told me this.

Answer 1

To tell u the truth.. i dont believe "all " mothers should get custody.. my father got custody of me and my siblings and i thank god every day.. because my mother had another child (my half brother) with another man who she raised, and well he quit school at 16.. got into alot of trouble with the law.. and even got mixed up in drugs ect.. and i know that would of been us, if she had gotten custody of us, instead we have a great father who instilled morals and values in us.. and we had a great childhood..

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Just a side note now that ive gone back and read some of the comments u've gotten..

What people seem not to see in what ur saying, is the child is with u and your husband a majority of the time.. your caring for the child MORE then the mother is.. and the father is STILL paying child support..

NOT ALL MOTHERS ARE ALIKE.. there are some out there that want no responsibilities, and want the childsupport and thats all they care about, doesnt mean they dont love their child, but WHAT KIND OF MOTHER allows for ANYONE to take care of the child MORE then they are?????? iF you and ur husband are with the child 90% of the time, then the child should "LIVE" with u.. And she should be the visitation parent, because she's obviously to busy in her own life for her son if you and your husband are with him 90% of the time.. and if thats the case, then shes not a "REAL" mom.. just like the saying any Man can be a father but it takes a special person to be a Daddy the same goes for WOMEN.. any woman can be a mother, but it takes a special woman to be a Mommy.. DONT LET PEOPLE BRING U DOWN.. U and ur Husband are doing whats in the Childs BEST INTERST.. if the CHilds mom had her child as her best interest SHED BE THE ONE DOING HOMEWORK. TAKING CARE OF THEM WHEN THEIR SICK.. COOKING DINNER FOR THEM EACH NIGHT..ECT.. So dont let anyone on here that obviously feels guilty of their own parenting skills get u down cause anyone that loves their child would want whats best for them, and just cause ur a mother doesnt mean ur whats best with them.. they NEED A STABLE HOUSE HOLD WITH A STABLE PARENT THATS GOING TO ALWAYSSSSSSSSSSS TAKE CARE OF THEM NOT JUST WHEN ITS CONVIENT FOR THEM....

Answer 2

Your husband can file a "change of circumstances" and have the custody & support modified. The judge will go by how much time the child spends with each parent, their incomes, and who is the primary care taker- meaning who is making sure the childs daily needs are being met- which it sounds like you and your husband are. The courts have a child support calculator which has guidelines that take all these things into consideration and the support is based on facts and figures. So bring receipts and documentation, income verification, etc and prove your case. I think these days courts see more Fathers stepping up to that plate, it will work out. You're lucky you have one of the good guys! Hope this info helps..good luck!

Answer 3

Why does this happen...look she the mother gave birth to the child after carrying it for 36-42 weeks in her stomach normally. Than she got stitches and breast feed and stayed up all night with teething and sickness etc. Than her husband left her and she had to work her but off to pay the bills and now can not spend as much time with the child as she wishes....IS THAT THE TRUTH OF IT??? Or do you think that somehow your husband and you love the child more than her? I would never want to take another woman's child.....and unless she is abusive or a druggie neither should you.

Answer 4

It is the basic assumption that most mothers care more for their kids. Usually even when they're married, the mom has to nag the dad to pay attention to them.

However, it sounds like there are specific things you've been doing that will prove, in a legal way, that you are providing more care. Quite often judges are willing to give the father custody nowadays, especially if you also want it, and are willing to act as a mom to the kid.

Answer 5

there is not any such element as a protection stress divorce. All divorces are civil concerns. in spite of this, the quantity of youngster help is consistent with income. If there's a court docket order in place that states how lots newborn help he ought to pay, then that's what he needs to pay. the only way he ought to petition the courts to diminish the quantity is that if his circumstances replaced and he unexpectedly began making heavily much less money. As for sending extra money on each occasion his ex asks for it, he's no longer obligated to try this and he's in actuality a fool to attain this.

Answer 6

I think the stereotype of a mother automatically being the best primary carer is gradually losing its power to enchant, even in legal circles. If you are considering seeking custody, you do indeed need a lawyer, and you also need to start documenting what you do for your son in comparison to what the mother does. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 7

You know what ***** quit trying to steal someone elses kid. Because dumb *** a child is better off with their mother, she gave birth not you, if you want a kid have your own!!! If doing all of this is such an inconvienence for you than quit doing it!!! Word of warning, it is a mothers natural instinct to protect there young!!! If this mother does truely care about her kid, I wouldn't screw with her if I were you!!! But if your telling the truth, and you have the kid 95% of the time, which would mean that she only has him 5 out of every 100 days, then you won't have anything to worry about

Answer 8

I think that if you get a lawyer you might be surprised at the outcome once you tell him/her all that you have just said.
You 2 are married, and sound like you can provide a good life for your hubbys child, You have a great case given what you have said.
Definatley seek legal advice.

Answer 9

This just sounds like it is driven out of spite.... if you cared about the child... you wouldn't spend time insulting his mother and trying to push her out of his life... your motives sound like they are derived from resentment and harsh feelings from your husband's previous relationship. You should find a way to have all three of you in the child life and respect the mother as a person and that child's mother.

Answer 10

i am not sure what your question is. do most people think a mother is fitter parent? yes. is that a correct opinion? not necessarily. if the child's father is, in fact, the custodial parent, even if he is paying support, he can go to family court to have his case reviewed. he should get a lawyer but i fought such a battle myself without one and won. you need to let him handle it. you need to stay out of it.