there is a guy (at least 20 years older than me) at my new job who at first I thought was cool and we would joke around, but now he's constantly hitting on me (saying stuff in a playful way about how hot I am) and putting his hands on my shoulders and keeps asking me to have drinks with him (to which I turn him down politely, but he doesn't get the hint). How can I get him to leave me alone without pissing him off (since we work in close quarters)??
2006-09-10 18:19:16 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
tell him about your huge imaginary boyfriend.
2006-09-10 18:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by Steve-Ohhhh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretend one day that you just got ingaged come in with a fake diamond and show it off since you are new no one will know if you are seeing any one outside of work or not and if he says when is the day just say we haven't set one yet
if that doesn't work then just say look _______ i am sure you are a nice guy cause you are a nice guy hear at work but i have a rule i don't date or have drinks with anyone i work with it just gets to confusing and starts to many rumors
good luck hope one of the two ideas work
2006-09-11 01:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by christy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he touches you or does anything that makes you uncomfortable, you need to make it very clear that you do not appreciate that act, and that you expect it to never happen again. Explain that your relationship needs to remain strictly professional so that the company can preform better. Again, you have to specifically tell him, or none of this is his fault. Once you have asked him to stop, if he continues, you need to immediately remove yourself from the situation and inform a supervisor.
2006-09-11 01:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by karkov48 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...No matter how you feel that you don't want to cause any further "harsh" problems..You need to talk to your boss dear! Do it now, because it sounds like too much of a chance to take by letting this go.
Keep on respecting yourself by taking immediate action! You do have every right reason to do so judjing by your story you've just explained here....You are right to do so! You are not being pathetic or over exagerated, you do have the smarts to see it as you do. It sounds creepish to me too!
2006-09-11 01:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who had that problem. She went to her supervisor but, I think you might try talking to him first to avoid things getting too sticky. Tell him you don't like to be touched unless it's your idea and this is not your idea. Tell him he's invading your personal space and you'd like him to please back off. If that doesn't work then yes, go to your supervisor. If he/she does nothing then go to personnel.
2006-09-11 01:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean u can lie and tell him u have a man or u can be straight up with him and tell him he's a nice guy but u dont want to mix work with pleasure....tell him udont think its a good idea to go out with guys u work will he cant do anythin but understand
2006-09-11 01:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Theresa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There may be no nice way with someone like that . Tell him you really do not like to be touched .Say you are not interested .Make it very clear . If he keeps it up ; report it to your superiors .
2006-09-11 01:30:34 · answer #7 · answered by missmayzie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your boss if he does nothing then see a lawyer, you are being sexual harrased,even though you may not think so.but first tell him right out you do not feel his remarks are appropriate in a work enviorment and you do not like them,use good sense.good luck
2006-09-11 01:27:35 · answer #8 · answered by snky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hie be honest to your self and to him , just the truth will set you free . tell the stupid guy the truth and be honest , he will get over it. If you do not like him , you better to tell him the truth then mislead him.
2006-09-11 01:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by tangind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need too stop being so nice and tell him to piss offf, he cant do ne thing to you
2006-09-11 01:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by sickskillz883 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋