Throught my life, I have been betrayed by those I trust, and used by those I have loved. Now I have become rigid, and suspicious of almost everybody. I am cautious of who I talk to, and who gets to know who I am. I don't want to live my life in solitude, but I don't want to get "burned" again.
2006-09-10 18:15:14 · 10 answers · asked by Dragon Breath 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
WOW! You sound so much like me, at one point, I used to be a "sponge" you see and soak up everyones probs, and try to fix everyone. And get sooo burned because I would try to please and be nice to everyone only because that is the way I am. One day I woke up. And **** everyone. Simple as that. Your heart is sooo good, people may not appreciate you, and it sucks and it hurts. There is nothing you can do about other people. But, hiding is not the answer. Do not give sooo much of yourself that you lose yourself. Ever. You are you and you will find people that are "real" and you will like and Yes, they also will like you! So drop the dark blinds at the windows, smile at strangers! Just be YOU! Its going to be alright don't let ANYONE bring you down and control your life. It is yours to own! Good Luck :) ANd remember to breathe!
2006-09-10 18:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by dabesgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I seem to be in the same position. Many people seem to think l need a significant other. But to be perfectly frank, I finally just focused on raising my daughter and doing my best to take care of us, myself. Now I'm helping my daughter raise my grandchildren and don't really see myself as ever becoming part of a pair again! Trust issues are my biggest glitch. I keep every body at surface level. No one gets to know the deeper me. I do have a couple of good Friends but, still even they don't get the trust of confidant that most people would give close friends.
I know writing in my journal helps me deal with allot of it so I don't bury myself. I don't feel sorry for myself, but I don't want to step out there and throw it all out for public display either. I guess all we can do is trust in God. I do what I can to help others in any way I can. It seems to help me feel better about self and I know I am getting some positive interaction with the human race. I wonder what Dr. Phill would say. He seems to have pretty good advice. I don't generally have time to watch tho! maybe we need to start a Club of emotionally damaged, where do we go from here group! Your call! Keep smiling and have a wonderful day!!
2006-09-11 01:37:41 · answer #2 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way, I didn't even trust myself. The bad part is that this is a permanent state there is know going back. We have been robbed of our trust and used up by the ones we love. So I look at it like this. If I don't open up to people I can't get hurt.People can only hurt you if you love them or trust them. Don't trust anybody and it is ok to have feeling, (if you are like me its hard to) but don't tell anybody, just be cool and say as little as possible. At least people like us know whats up!
2006-09-11 01:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. That was your past, just forget what had happend to u. I m bit sure it will not happen again bcoz all people are not alike. I know u r a very sensible & kind hearted person, u will definitely get love, trust, care everything that u really need.I will always be with u as a wellwisher.
2006-09-11 01:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by camilia_13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are the culmination of our life experiences. We learn, we grow, we change, we adapt. You are protecting yourself from future hurts based on past pains. But don't close yourself off completely. That wall you are building around yourself might keep others out. But it also traps you inside its boundaries. Don't be afraid to take a chance now and then. Otherwise time will pass you by and suddenly you realize that you once had a life.
2006-09-11 01:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Emm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look Im no psychologist but If you ask me the problem doesnt lie with you but more to the people you tend to hand around with... Maybe its time to rethink you friendships and decide which are healthy and which arent. Remember people judge you by the company you keep. You dont have to change who you are to get respect and valued..... Just keep going strong, God throws obstacles in our way so that we may overcome them and in so doing enrich our lives..... Keep Strong, Keep True and above all else remember to have Honour......
2006-09-11 01:28:49 · answer #6 · answered by Shaun G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be very cautious seeing to your past, but don't hold yourself back. The next person could be the right one for you, you don't want to miss out. I think it's worth the ache to find the perfect person for you.
2006-09-11 01:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your outlook in life is your self, everything that you know are your tools in your social relationship. Your judgments and preferences affects your neighbors. I think you have to look and check your self in your interactions. You cannot change your self totally, you can only modify it but it is still the same self.
2006-09-11 01:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by ol's one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your friends checked out by private detectives
2006-09-11 14:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel ya...that's me, too!! I'm not sure if you can change it--but it is really hard to control!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-11 01:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Haylow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋