my friends say i am too fussy, but i just would like to find someone i have a connection with. i usually end up choosing people who are not good for me in the long term and i end up getting hurt. how can i stop being so choosy?
2006-09-10 18:08:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Am - im in australia not the USA and im 28, not a youth ! :)
2006-09-10 18:15:15 · update #1
Your girl is right here ; )
2006-09-10 19:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dunno..I'm a gay guy in America so I can't be much help. But I've seen your answers here and you seem smart and have common sense. I don't think being choosy is necessarily a bad thing. I guess you gotta figure out why you keep picking the wrong people. There's a lot of lesbians on here, I'm sure they will be more help then me, but good luck.
2006-09-10 20:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by GoldnHart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
suicideblonde,
Too fussy? As in high maintenance, or in picky about who you are with?
I'm figuring that it's high maintenance. Because you gave us very little information and are expecting to tell you; "how can i stop being so choosy?"
I would have to know a little more than that to help you. If you can respond to this:
Would you consider yourself a perfectionist?
Do you have a designated place for nearly everything in your house?
Do you find yourself expecting others to do things for you that you could do for yourself?
Do you show your emotions when you are displeased?
Why did you break up with your last lover?
2006-09-10 19:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I met my partner at a Needle Exchange Conference in ABQ-NM. (Yes, in order to help prevent the spread of HIV and HEP C, some agencies provide Needle Exchange programs.) Anyways, she was a young college student from UNM who was our tour guide to the city. Our agency was from Monterey CA. She showed us the hot spots and then my coworker and I asked for the best GLBT club and she would recommend one only if she could come with us. We have been together for 4 years now. She is my best volunteer worker
2006-09-11 08:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by cj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choosy isn't bad! Just take stalk of the things you're choosy about, eh. Open, honest, humor, can laugh at self, is not looking to take care of you or have you take care of her, respects your needs and lets you know what needs she has of you, really listens and expects to really be listened to, mutual attraction - a must... healthy relationship stuff is good stuff to be picky about. Looks, job, wealth, external accomplishments, blah, not so important.
2006-09-10 18:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Selling raffle tickets of all things. Something just went boom. I don't think you you stop being fussy though the right person will come along.
2006-09-10 18:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try out Lamda Youth Network they usually have weekly or monthly events (they're all over the USA), and you can meet new people there during those events...
;-)
I met my sweetie online, we were freinds... I was hangin' out on Collegeclub.com using their IM and he was in my area and we hung out a few times... then it clicked, and I relized I had fell for someone
LOL
;-)
Then I asked him out and we are together even to this day (this was in 2001-now)
2006-09-10 18:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Am 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i met my partner through a friend. i'm the same as you and end up getting hurt in the long run. don't settle for anyone less than who you think deserves you.
2006-09-11 07:25:03 · answer #8 · answered by Scully 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not I met my partner in a pub. a gay pub. I sat with mutual friends at a table this man was at and I thought I'm not letting this one out of my sight...and figuratively I haven't 19yrs later.
2006-09-10 18:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
We met online through Lesbotronic.com, believe it or not, we were actually matched 2x, the second time, she emailed me... we corresponded for a few months before meeting in person... when we met, we REALLY hit it off well... and are still together, will be moving in together soon.
2006-09-11 02:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by coasterjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother introduced us, believe it or not. I was 12 he was 17. We became friends and then 6 years later we became partners.
2006-09-10 18:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by kiz_ma_az 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋