Men are so scared of each other. I can't go up to my male co workers that I chat with and say "Hey, wanna come over to my place and hang out?", they would assume that I'm gay or some kind of wierdo when really all I want is a friend. I can't go to women and ask them to go out to lunch with me because then they will think I'm asking them out for a date, and that's not what I want!
How are us guys supposed to make new friends, if you don't have any friends to begin with?! I know it can be done because I've seen it be done before....
2006-09-10 18:01:15 · 11 answers · asked by opticalnoise 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're absolutely right. My family gradually moved to another state and I did too but they are all much older then me and it was hard to get to know people, much harder then when I was younger.
Inviting a guy over you arent already friends would be awkward. Inviting several guys over would be more natural. Throwing a get together with coworkers and getting someone who already knows several folks to help give it is a great way to get others on board to attend. It may be easier if its planned around an idea like a birthday, televised football game or holiday.
If that feels too forward, you could try for an outing to an event and get several folks onboard to attend. Another way is to get involved with an activity like sports where you can get to know people better.
It is more challenging as adults to make friends because people are already settled with friends and family. I started by only making a few friends but found inviting friends of friends was a successful way to widen my circle. Good luck and be prepared for it to occur in small steps and not be put off by some rejejections.
2006-09-10 18:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by SASHA123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are asking.
I think I agree with most of the answers on here.
For a guy,, I would ask one of them if they thought a few of the guys would want to go get a beer after work one day, say on friday? Or ask one if they ever go to the local pub, bar, even a place like Applebees for a bite.
You may want to just stand around while everyone chats to see what the conversation is about,just to get an idea on something to ask....
For a lady at work, it's almost the same thing.....Say hi to a couple of them if they are talking and make small chit-chat, and say "is anyone up for a friendly lunch one day this week? You can treat to dessert..........ladies like dessert! good luck
2006-09-10 19:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to men about sport. That is the one surefire way in. Once the conversation is that way you can say "hey, wanna catch the game on TV at my place this weekend" or "how about we go to the game on Saturday".
With women at work, its easy to say, you want to go down the road and get some lunch? I've done it plenty of times with workmates who become really good friends.
Don't be afraid of what they are going to think. Just jump in and ask.
2006-09-10 18:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I'm not mistaken the bible says (don't quote me) He who has friends, must first show himself friendly.
Simply put be friendly make a point to speak to people, use their name and if you don't know their name ask them. If it's your co-workers then say Good Morining Jane, John how's it going? really hot out isn't it. Say John what are you guys doing for lunch, I'm really starve. Won't to go together on a pizza or someting or maybe get some Chinese. etc
2006-09-10 18:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by CLE CLE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Social mores are boxing us all into twosomes. I don't like it either but projects are your best bet. Find some volunteer activity you enjoy and just working side-by-side on a good cause will generate a cameraderie that may carry over. Try contacting old friends and see what happens.
2006-09-10 18:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking about a common topic. Maybe if you see them do something like... play a game, or read a specific piece of news - show interest in what they do and talk about it. Guys make friends through the sharing of interests.
2006-09-10 18:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Sam, Vice President of the YAA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a sitcom tonight, the dad told his son that at his age, the dads, it's easier to make a new life than a new friend. Doesn't help you, but seemed like an timely comment.
2006-09-10 18:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first u gonna introduce urself..if u ask ur co-workers for a drink or hang out then go outside or bars then if u guys r close already then thats the time that u gonna offer ur place......
2006-09-10 18:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be hard these days but I don't think that he would think that your gay.unless?Look try not to be so scared at things.Ask him if he wants to play football etc.....Or video games.He wont think it's stupid.
2006-09-10 18:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stirke up a conversation about....football
if its a lady friend talk about your dog or something
ask questions
2006-09-10 18:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by bruce p ♥ ♥ ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋