I asked this question about a few weeks ago, if you remember maybe you can help me now. It is all starting to come out, because of something my daughters father said to her about this guy, weve been friends for 20yrs, and I have strong feelings for him. Well, now i feel I need to tell him exactly how I feel so he understands why his goddaughter is being told nasty stories about him br her own father. I am afraid that anything I say may change or ruin our friendship, I never wanted this to happen. I had just decided to keep my mouth shut until this happened, and now I am stuck, How do I know what to say to him and say it without him being offended or getting mad at me? Can I tell him exactly how I feel without risking a great friendship? I think my daughters dad is extremely jealous of this guy too, and is really lashing out at everyone. We broke up a yr ago and he is just getting the picture now, and he is pissed!! What should I do?
What can I say to my friend about how I feel?
2006-09-10 17:50:53 · 5 answers · asked by 2shy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know I need to tell him and it is very embarrassing i mean i am not a kid i am 32 yrs old for crying out loud! But I dont know HOW to say it or how to approach it. I am hoping that after all we've been through in so long that our friendship will last, I'm just paranoid that it will hurt it, or change it.
2006-09-10 17:59:15 · update #1
I do not recall the previous question, but from what I gather at this one I can offer this ideas. You have been friends for a long time. Don't you think he already knows what you feel? Maybe he suspects something.
A great friendship can survive many things and there is no evil in just telling him what you feel, and what you are going thru. If he is such a good friend he will offer his sympathy and his help. If he has feelings for you he will open up and talk about them. If no feelings from his part, he will tell you too.
Go ahead and tell him the whole story, including your thoughts about why the father of your daughter reacts the way he does. The more you share the better. Good luck.
2006-09-10 18:03:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friendship is that strong I believe you should be able to tell him anything. If you don't tell him you will regret and always wonder what if. Just be honest--speak from your heart tell him how you feel.. I know its scary--I have strong feeling for my best friend too and we talk about. I can not be with him now but who knows what the future holds. You have to be honest--Take a deep breath and just start talking the more you say the easier it will be... Good luck--I wish you the best
2006-09-10 18:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by chick29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be real admit you reservations but always be true to the heartfelt friendship you share... You will never go wrong. Today is all we are promised.
2006-09-10 18:01:50 · answer #3 · answered by verylucky1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you probably need to tell him becuase hell only be cofused by what is being said by your daughter. if your ex is getting madder he'll only say more stuff and your friend will only get more confused.
2006-09-10 17:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by willis_is_40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to this person and be honest ...then hes no friend.
2006-09-10 18:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋