I am 47 and have been divorced for two years. He had several affairs said he never really loved me, and decided with his last who was 23 he was in love. I moved out of my home of 20 years, because he had had her there, six day's later had a terrible car accident which caused surgery and several months off work, and 1 month later my Father passed away! Too much to deal with all at once!! In such time i have met someone younger than me by 13 years, has two small children and seems to be totally in love with me. I am finding it very hard to just move on...
2006-09-10 17:27:42 · 7 answers · asked by madchowawa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, first of all, 47 is not too old to start over. I was 42 when my world came crashing in. It is hard to start over and trust. but over time, you will see that he did you the best favor in the world by leaving you....you don't need such a scum bag in your life...
As for your new guy, women out live men by 7-14 years so it makes sense to me that you have a younger man :) Just take it slow, enjoy being loved and let him love you...not all men are like your ex, praise God. I found the love of my life (younger too) and I am happier than I have ever been in my whole life.... Thank your ex for leaving...that'll piss him off.
2006-09-10 17:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Emme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yow! Don't buy any lottery tickets! (Sorry, just kiddin!) I do know the feeling, been there, doin that. A good friend once told me "everything happens for a reason". I have come to believe this is true. You had some bad stuff happen. Sounds like your marriage was one of mere convenience, no love, no affection, no happiness. As hard as it was, it's probably best it ended. You can now both move on with your lives. As for your father, my condolences. But we all must go that way someday. The timing is never good. Cherish his memory. The rest of your calamities are just life. Nobody ever said it was going to be easy. How this all affects you now boils down to is how you react to it all. You can let it beat you down, lie down and die, defeated. Or you can stand up and fight for what you deserve and rise above the ashes. Are you willing to let these series of unfortunate events defeat you? Or will you move on, heal, and finally allow yourself some happiness, some good things in your life? Good luck!
2006-09-11 03:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie your a beautiful person, and if that last sob didn't recognize it, then honey that's his loss. Brush your shoulders off and deal with the present situation. I know it's hard, but you take it easy, one day at a time. Look at Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, they're fabulous and you and the young man are too. Good Luck
2006-09-10 17:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear about all the bad luck you have had lately!
I will say this much..TAKE THINGS SLOW!! DONT rush into marriage or anything with the new man until you REALLY know him well! GO SLOW!
2006-09-10 17:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that answer will come with time and if it is meant to be it will be ............... some people get over it and the continue on enjoying life ,while others don't and become bitter and angry ...... your heart will lead the way........ and your soul will show it to you ........... Good luck try it !!!!!Never want to be sitting around in a few years regretting it..............think of it as your new life........
2006-09-10 18:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by dodonumber2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it slowly. You are lucky to have found someone who loves you. Don't let the age be a factor.
2006-09-10 17:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta find that within u....but it might help to inform new beau, that ur struggling. he may b very understanding and helpful....hopefully.
2006-09-10 17:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by blkhawk51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋