Like, were you ever at a party wanting to be accepted by the all the strangers there, and exactly the opposite happens? Are people psychic? The best thing you can do is not care. Interesting, no?
2006-09-10 17:17:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sometimes we try too hard to make something happen... and in the process end up having the opposite effect.
This happens especially in regard to human relationships. The effort someone is putting into things, the stress he might be feeling to succeed, the "contrived behavior" he might use to force a certain resolution, is all read by other people as either nervousness, or insincerity, or instability.
It is definitely frustrating, such as in situations where someone wants to make a good impression because it matters to them, but trying to make a good impression can easily end up screwing up the entire situation.
In the end, it's always best to be pretty stable, be secure in who and what one is at the moment, and not worry a great deal about controlling people's reactions. When people sense that a person is taking things calmly, his personality is consistent, and he's not trying to manipulate them at some level, they generally will respond openly and there's the best possible chance to have thigns resolve the way one wants.
[This, I assume, is the attitude you mean by "not caring." Not really indifference, just a reluctance to control others or get too worked up about a particular situation.]
2006-09-11 02:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Human beings have had thousands of years of learning about each other...learning which our survival depended. What I'm trying to say is that yes, we all read each other quite we'll. It is not magic...more like Gestalt psychology..."gut feelings."
2006-09-11 01:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Rod 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In that case, maybe they didn't sense your inner agenda but instead just didn't take well to your outer behavior.
The best thing you can do is relax and be yourself.
2006-09-11 00:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Facial expression says it all. Even the way you talk or even your gestures.
2006-09-11 03:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By means of manifestation on it on your gestures.
2006-09-11 00:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Vocal Prowess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were able to read your body language.
2006-09-11 02:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by jasminelilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
develop a better poker face
2006-09-11 00:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by green-eyed monster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋