i have been with him for 9months . He is the best thing for my little girl and i. We are having some problems and now he says he don't love me anymore but 2months ago he wanted to marry me. what do i do, i'm lost
2006-09-10 17:16:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You've got to get at the root of what changed his mind, and only he can do that. So talk to him. Tell him the least you deserve from him is the truth, seeing as it's your heart he's breaking. Then, if he is any kind of man, he will step up and tell you, and you'll know if you can work on that or not.
But do yourself and him a favor; if you can get it out of him, think it over before saying "we can fix this" or "I can change". I know women with children sometimes think they have to latch on to whoever will stick around, but make sure that it's the right situation for you...don't change your life for the sake of not being alone....there are worse things than being alone and unhappy....like not being alone and miserable.
2006-09-10 17:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you do something wrong? Didn't think so . My best answer would be to give what he wanted & say thanks for everything & have a great life cause you trying to fix things by yourself & it takes 2 to make it work. Very expereinced in those words of I'm not in love with you anymore. Had it said to me 6 times in 11 years everytime a new younger version came along.
2006-09-11 00:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when I was a kid i had an old dog that stayed out under the front porch and when ever i would go out old dog was there and would follow me anywhere. Our neighbor had a fence around their yard and kept the gate shut untill one day the gate got left open and their dog has not been seen sence. If you have to try to keep someone then you have lost
2006-09-11 00:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he isn't quite sure of himself. He may have other interests, be careful. Along those lines, I personally don't think 9 months has been nearly long enough for you two, at least not for him. Talk to him, and give it a month or two, see what happens. If you are still getting red flags, move on.
2006-09-11 00:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make someone love you. if you can sit down and talk to him without any distractions and lay your cards on the table to him. i know you must be hurting and confused right now, ive been where you are and i do feel your pain.
you can only try. if he is ardament that it wont work out you will just have to face it and move on. it wont be easy but you will come out of a stronger woman. remember when one door closes another opens. it did for me. good luck.
2006-09-11 00:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to him. How could he love one day and dont the other. Maybe he never did. It takes at LEAST 1-2 years to really know someone much less marry them.
2006-09-11 00:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by BrooklynQT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut it off quick now, before your daughter gets too attatched to him, the breakup will be hard on both of you. but for the best.
2006-09-11 00:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by gesswh0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make someone love you...and if he is telling you that he doesn't love you anymore, it's time to move on. either way you don't lose...if you leave and he decides he can't live without you..you've won....and if you leave and you find someone better...you have won....
2006-09-11 00:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by jackie_in_wv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the best sex he's ever had and stop nagging. make sure the house is clean and cook for him
2006-09-11 00:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him, ask him if he's sure he doesn't love U or if he's just scared. if he doesn't really love U sweetie, then let him go...
2006-09-11 00:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋