In marrying someone I would like to have a man who can support me and our possible future children, not because I would not work. I'm hard working and independant. However, I have tremendous peace of mind to know that a man can and would support me financially if I happen to shose to be a stay at home mom for a couple of years. (I don't currently have chuildren)
2006-09-10 17:01:20 · 32 answers · asked by 5324 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It is truly a full time job to raise children. Not to say that working single parents cannot properly raise children, plenty of people from single-parent homes have gone on to be successful. However, in today's day and age, it is highly beneficial if not necessary to a growing child's physce to have all of the non-spoiling attention it needs to be a happy, level-headed, independent thinking individual. As for not working yourself, the only wat to have peace of mind is to know that financially both you and your partner have, or have set aside enough funds to do so. Finding a man that wants you to stay at home means one of two things, he's chauvenistic, or he is completely confident in the fact that your family is in a great position to do so. You must show a mand that you can provide for yourself and that you have done so in order to gain enough respect where you will be comfortable living at home. In closing, do you.
2006-09-10 17:11:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ariel B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really the sad side of civilization. From ages the women work at home and bring up children and the men go out and bring food and material home. As the development of kitchen equipments cropped up the household chores of women decreased and due to the luxurious desires the women also started going to work to earn more and enjoy all the fashions that are being offered in the present day. Due to passage of time all these events are forgotten and Lo Now we see people like you feeling guilty to staying at home and rightfully doing the job of a house wife. Nothing wrong be at peace of mind.
2006-09-10 17:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with that at all. Wanting to stay home and raise your own children while the father supports the family is great. Be careful in your search and make sure the man is wanting to do that too. Best of luck.
2006-09-10 17:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that there is anything wrong with that. As a matter off fact that is how it should be. In the old days when a man wanted to marry he had to prove that he was capable of taking care of the woman. Besides if you are considering marrying someone that doesnt share the same views then forget it cause it wasnt meant to be anyways.
2006-09-10 17:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with wanting what you want. Don't worry about what others think. It is a noble job to be a stay at home mom and a man with like thoughts would be proud to have a woman like you to work hard for and for his children.
It's all about finding a man with like thoughts.
Good Luck!
2006-09-10 17:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. This was important to me as well. And anyone who has a brain will tell you it's better for your kids to have their parents' time, either one. You just want that job. I had the education, the job, and I would rather raise my own children, that's why I had them. I think you are a woman who knows what's important to HER. If you think about it, it's a fine example of forethought. This is something that should be discussed before marriage, because not all men are as understanding and respectful about the choice. And on this site, I haven't seen many women like us.
2006-09-11 02:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a stay at home mom for almost 20 yrs. having 4 children in 5 yrs. and worked harder than most men. I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. You will never regret being at home with your children do what ever it takes to keep you there. My kids have already told me that they were glad I was there for them. More importantly, be at home when they are teens.
2006-09-10 17:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you would want to be a stay at home mom then that is your choice. You would just have to be with someone who agrees and understands that they would be the one financially supporting the family, and that they wouldn't mind.
(I wouldn't change being a stay at home mom for the world.)
2006-09-10 17:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by teeniey37 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is there to see wrong in this? theres nothing wrong with wanting to know that your man could support you financially, its great to be independent but its something we all need to know especially if its someone we're looking to have children with, right?
It's all about the future!!
2006-09-10 17:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by AlwaysAsking 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing at all is wrong with it. If you get serious about a man, serious enough to talk about marriage and the future, you should bring it up with him and let him know that it is important to you to raise your children full-time while they are little. Ask him candidly if he would support you in this matter.
2006-09-10 17:08:08 · answer #10 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋