Ok...i met this guy. he comes into my work during lunch. Well we started talking and he came over one night to hang out with me and my friend and we ended up hooking up. I know he is married but i just got out of a 4 year relationship and i wasnt thinking about him being married. I dont want a relationship with him or anything. But i just want to know will it be strange in coming in my work..It was just a one time thing
2006-09-10 16:36:51 · 22 answers · asked by WhatNow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not like i got an attachment or anything to him, because i dont. And in a way i do feel bad, but in a way i fell that its his problem to deal with. ya know. He's the one that cheated, not me. hes the one that came on to me, i didnt come on to him. yeah i did go along with it. but hes the one that will have to look at his wife everyday and know what he did. i know that sounds mean..but its the truth. All i wanted to know was if it will be strange, b/c ive never done this before and i dont know what to expect
2006-09-10 16:53:06 · update #1
First of all you should avoid contact with him because he is a married man. Eventhough you didn't respect that before. Tell him that you don't want anything else. Secondly break all cords with him to avoid being engaged with him again for your and his dignity. And thirdly you are just out of a long relationship don't rush things. Take time so you can grow over the hurt and the experiences.
Seek comfort in Jesus arms. Engage with a lot of friends and do things you want in a healthy way. That's my advice.
2006-09-10 16:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ximos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to say this but people like you make me sick. Yeah it takes two but If you knew he was married why did you bother with him in the first place. Why didn't you just tell him you can't be here and ask him if his wife knows that your here when he was hanging out at your house. Even though it was a one time thing something really happen between you two and nothing can change anything because whats done is done. So the best thing I can tell you is just leave that married man alone.
2006-09-10 20:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Hawaiianlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave a married man alone. Maybe he is with to satisfied an urge ,an need.On the end of the day they have you, to kill time, have the same sex as they did when they met their wife's. Don't waste your youth full years on men who are not fully available. No matter what the man says about his wife, you don't who the wife is, who his children are.. Cheating is very pain full when found out. Not just for the wife, but all so for the kids. If you don't care, go for it,but if you do, it's time to grow up...
2006-09-10 17:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by ML72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not one of those things,you cheated with a married man and you knew he was married,that makes you no better than him,what gos around comes around,one day when you are happily married that will happen to you and you will feel like his wife does when she fines out,don't you feel good about it now.
2006-09-10 16:41:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl don't give yoself a hard time cuz he's married. He knew he was married when he took his azz to yo houz that night to "Hang Out". he knew he was goin for some booty. Don't let him put you into that situation of feeling insecure or uncomfortable at your place of business. If I were you though I'd be more on the look out for his wife cuz alot of married men get that guilt complex and end up telling their spouse either trying to piss them off, make them jelous or by trying to save the marriage.
2006-09-10 16:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Shortie♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, put it this way, if you just want a "friend with benefits" a married man is perfect. You never have to worry about him trying to rule over ya because hes got alot to lose!! You always have the upper hand!! So, NO don't be weirded out, think about it, he should be more nervous than u!!
2006-09-10 16:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by jessica g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
subject: listen up now according what you did is wrong called
affair with an married man not knowing that! alot of times a divorce will happend with an spouse if caught by her see even
once man marries an woman who faithfully promises not to cheat is worth while in relationship as such
2006-09-10 16:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you work with him? Well, I'm not going to judge but, you said it. You said he was the one doing wrong. That's not really fair. It takes 2 to cheat. About is wife - he isn't the only one who should feel bad looking her in the eye. You might not have to see her but, if you did you should feel guilty too. I neither judge nor saction. I'm just telling you the way it really is.
2006-09-10 17:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You realized it was a "one time thing". And yet you have some guilt over seeing him again. Ask yourself why? Is it because you have some respect for marriage or is it you lost respect for yourself? At times, we get caught up in these messes but what we need to remind ourselves is "what are our values and morals?
2006-09-10 16:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by InSight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends if you are the kind of person who can block that kind of stuff out. Some women all very emotional & take hooking up kind of to the heart.
2006-09-10 16:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋