My husband has a drug problem and I told him if he messed up and left us broke again I was going to leave, but his daddy is in the hospital dying hooked up to a respirator and thats the only thing keeping him alive and my husband is messing up again. This time he gave me all of his money before i left so he wouldnt mess up but I know he is probably just selling his fishing poles and whatever tools he has. Would I be an awful person if I left him knowing he is suffering from his dad being so sick and may not live? What should I do?
2006-09-10 16:36:25 · 3 answers · asked by stormyblythe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband has a drug problem and I told him if he messed up and left us broke again I was going to leave, but his daddy is in the hospital dying hooked up to a respirator and thats the only thing keeping him alive and my husband is messing up again. This time he gave me all of his money before i left so he wouldnt mess up but I know he is probably just selling his fishing poles and whatever tools he has. Would I be an awful person if I left him knowing he is suffering from his dad being so sick and may not live? What should I do? We have 2 kids together also
2006-09-10 16:41:41 · update #1
his addiction is crack cocaine for those who think its a little addiction and he's been dealing with it for like 15 years i think he said
2006-09-10 17:01:55 · update #2
No you wouldn't be awful....hes the one choosing to mess up..as an adult its his choice but you dint have put up with it..run while you can and good luck!
2006-09-10 16:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So how bad is he "messing up " ??? Smoking a joint occasionally, or an addict ??? Makes a world of differance. If he has an addiction problem, try your local agencies, narc-a-non, for example. Lay it all out for him, either that goes, or I go, along with the kids...An addiction is a really hard thing to fix, and he MUST be willing to make a commitment to stop. If after 3 or 4 tries, and he is still resorting to use, leave. Thats it, you and the kids will be better off away from that kind of life. You have to be willing to leave, as well as him being willing to stop.You both must be resolute...... If not, you must adjust to life as it now is...I did not learn this from a book, and know what I am saying...He is unable to act now, it is up to you to initiate the action... As far as his sick Father goes, that is unfortunate, but does not change anything...
2006-09-10 23:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by mobileminiatures 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a recovering crack addict and I suggest you leave. My parents kicked me out of there home but it lead me to hit my rock bottom by myself for me to get help. You are only enableing him. Right now, even with his father sick, it might just be the thing to open his eyes and see his problem. Also it's a good idea to attend Nar-Anon or even Al-Anon which are meeting for spouses for addicts and alcoholics.
2006-09-13 19:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by MS BOSSY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋