My husband has ADD, possibly Bi-Polar too. Our marriage is crumbling because of his disorders. He is like two different people. We are having trouble getting help because he is active duty military. I love him and don't want to give up on him, but I'm tired of him pushing me away.
2006-09-10 16:33:38 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs. Waiting 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been together for almost three years. He has been on meds since I met him and seen a psych. We have even been through counseling. He moved out two weeks ago and I'm sure wants a divorce. But I know once he "snaps back" he will feel completely horrible for how he acted. This has happened before.
2006-09-10 16:40:39 · update #1
See, I don't want to give up. He knows I love him and that he needs help. He wants help. But he left me, shut off our utilities, tried to get out of our lease and I'm sure has transfered his direct deposit into a personal account. This has happened before. He was gone two months before he called me and told me he would do whatever to make it work. Counseling and meds are just not working. I don't want to throw away my soul-mate, but can't continue to live like this!
2006-09-10 16:54:41 · update #2
Oh, and our anniversary is on 9/18.
2006-09-10 16:56:02 · update #3
come on you didnt notice this stuff before you married him ... it doesnt just pop out .. i know i have both... i think you owe it to him and your marriage to try working it out ... with the right counseling and meds he will be fine... and if the problem lies with him you may not even need to go to counseling with him honey just him...okay..but yes he needs to go for help...if this is what is wrong...only he can help himself and all you can do as his wife is to keep encouraging him and not give up on him...if you gave up on him (the one support system he thought he really had who would he ever trust... would he ever get help) dont leave him because of it...support him...tell him how you feel and tell him he needs counseling tell him you think the marriage is in danger...tell him exactly how you feel as you told us on here...there is nothing wrong with saying it but wow dont leave...if you want you can IM at yahoo messenger and we can talk more about bipolars okay....but really trust me.... best of luck ....they may just have not found the right medicine yet hon i know i am resistant to a lot of the medicines they have tried me on ...it takes lot of time a patients ...
2006-09-10 16:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by fantasia91273 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I have A.D.H.D. and Slighty Bi polar it is an off and on thing. Some days you feel lke you on the top of the world, others your life couldn't get any worse... It's really hard to live with for both parties invloved. It makes you fel like you have 2 personalities and your afraid to talk to anyone becuase they won't understand. The best thing to to is to love him unconditionally and go with him to work things out. You have to be a strong person to get through the whole thing. So if you think you have to much on your plate let him go.
2006-09-10 16:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by rose_adair 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is bi polar, and until she was actually diagnosed and given meds to treat it, she was unbearable........I know what you are going through, and he is going to have to make the time to see a psychiatrist and be put on some form of medication.........FYI........She has been on meds for over a year now and is a sweet young woman, totally different from the monster that she was......There is hope......Hang in there, dear........
2006-09-10 16:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing as you right now as we speak. Oh my god i thought i was alone. Well what i did was talk to him every night about how he is acting and i tell him that he is scaring me. But I show him my love and that i am here for him. its very bumpy at the start . Get medical help so you knoe the real diagnoses. then work on it from there.
2006-09-10 16:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by 007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two words. Couple Counseling. This is your marriage, I suggest seeking professional help.
2006-09-10 16:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by libbyocto14 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ADD is a symptom of bi-polar.... not two seperate disorders...
Get him to a psychologist to get medication they help
2006-09-10 16:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy h 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋