first let me clarify. my sons dog of 13 years just got ran over friday. i posted about it in the pet section if you want to read more?? anyway now my wife is blaming me for the loss and is talking about leaving. now i am not perfect, but i dont drink, do drugs or hit my wife. she gets to stay home because i make good money. so why is she blameing me and saying i am a bad person and saying all of thesse ugly things ?? my heart is already dying because of my sons greif. wahy is she doing this and is it my fault. i didnt kill him. someone else hit him witha car and i tried to save him. help because i am devastated!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-10 16:21:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only thing that is your fault is that you have the grammar of an eight year old retarded child. She is more upset with lack of grammar than with the dog.
2006-09-10 16:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I really feel sorry for you and your child who lost the dog. Making good money doesn't mean she should eccept things that you do wrong...don't tie money into it-K-. She is probably fet up with multiple mistakes that could have been prevented with a little less rush and a little more attention. What I'm saying is is that I can't see a woman leaving over one instance like this. You sound truely remorseful about the dog, but it the dog was getting older also. I remember pets that got run over by anything from the cars to go-carts to the brush-hog on my dad's tractor, but then again, we had a lot of cats running around. Do something to surprise your wife, and heal your son, he'll be OK!!!!
2006-09-10 23:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Country 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't know how to handle your son's grief and is projecting her frustration and grief upon you. You need to talk with her and tell her that you're sorry she's sad, but you did all you could (she knows you didn't hit the dog). You also need to talk to your son. I wouldn't recommend getting a new dog right away either. Your wife is being completely irrational. If a talk with her doesn't work, I think you need to leave the house be it for a few days or a few weeks. I know it sounds drastic, but maybe she needs to be alone. It also wouldn't hurt to talk to her family members about it or a best friend of her's (like if she has a sister). Women are usually more likely to heed the advice of another female (at least that's always been my experience.... and I am female).
2006-09-10 23:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people will say things out of grief because they can't deal with the overwhelming emotions of the loss. It's always easier to blame the one next to u. I'm not saying it's right, just saying that u need to step back and realize that during these type of situations, it's easier for some people to project their anger onto their loved ones because the grief and sorrow is too much for them to deal with.
2006-09-10 23:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what isit abt the WORD accident that ur wife cant comprehend? Means its not ur fault and its just life. so sorry to hear anout the lost of ur dog and the terrible treatment u are going through with your wife's sccusations on ya. Be strong
2006-09-11 01:32:57 · answer #5 · answered by crow_nanc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT YOUR FAULT ! and your wife needs to step back cuz in the first place if she stays home then how did the dog get loose and get hit was the dog out of the yard or off a leash? your where probably at work when it happened right? so where was she, (not watching the dog) so she mad actually at herself and taking out on you, because she knows is wasn't keeping an eye on the dog..I had the sam thing happen to me and it will be ok just console your kid ...
2006-09-10 23:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by pinballsuz 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's probably just stricken with grief. Give her some time, and she will be OK. Did you leave the gate open or something? Sometimes these things just happen. I'm sorry, dude.
2006-09-10 23:24:12 · answer #7 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For yr son y nt get him another pet? This will help him get over it.
As for yr wife....u need to talk to her...hv u been spenting most of yr time at work (since u said u make gd $), if u hv i think she is just unhappi tat u dun hv time for her n the family, u may want to suggest to bring them out for a short holidays...
Bringing home gd $ is nt a bad "thing" to do....but wife dun need "gd" $, they need a hubby tat is always by their side especially wen they r hving "bad" time....so were u there for her during those time? Find out wat she reali want....cos every1 different when come to "need"...
2006-09-10 23:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by D@ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry about your sons dog, no its not your fault, it was just bad luck, it sounds like there are some real issues you need to deal with, she needs to talk with you about what is the real problem, it sounds like she is using the death of your sons dog as an escape instead of speaking with you about the real problem, try and talk to her
2006-09-10 23:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is looking for an excuse to leave you. Get a clue, she doesn't love you like a wife anymore.
2006-09-10 23:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by laa_dee_fukin_daa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, if your wife is willing to break up with you over something like that, either she is reterded, or she was looking for a reason to breakup with you, before that even happened
2006-09-10 23:24:30 · answer #11 · answered by sweetjee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋