2006-09-10 16:10:56 · 20 answers · asked by sixteen20012002 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
use your hand too.
not too many women can orgasm through penetration alone, they need more "stimulation"
2006-09-10 16:13:04 · answer #1 · answered by cynthetiq 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax. You have to feel safe with the person you are with. Hopefully he is not putting pressure on you and you don't need to put pressure on yourself. The main thing is that you give one another mutual pleasure. There are a number of different positions and techniques that you can experiment with. There is a wholesection at Hastings book store on every postion, technique and for homosexuals and heterosexuals. You don't have to buy one to benefit from a tidbit of info here and there. Browse the section. Books can only give you a compass,enjoy the adventure of discovery together. Don't get frustrated, you will get there. My personal answer to you is foreplay is the key . Foreplay begins in your mind, think about the parts of his body that turn you on and the places you enjoy him touching and you enjoy touching on him. Take some time with yourself to discover what works for you . Once you know your own body you will be able to TELL HIM where to touch you and how to touch you. That's the discovery together part. He may not do it just right the first time but if he is your fiance' you have a lot more times that you can experiment and eventually have a great experience every time. The less emphasis on climax and the more on mutual enjoyment the more likely you will climax. Enjoy the reading.
2006-09-10 23:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have so much things on your mind. You need to relax, feel the touch and feel the love that is flowing thru your body. If it is always like this that you dont climax, then better seek the opinion of an OB-gyne and have your physical check-up. Am sure there's a medical reason for this, Or maybe its guilt since you are not yet married and you are already doing sex.
2006-09-10 23:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by japsie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be wise for you to talk about this with your fiancee. I had this problem with my girlfriend. What happened was that what I thought she liked, really wasn't giving her much pleasure for her to climax. So we talked about what she liked and what I liked during intercourse and now we're having great sex, discovering new things together. We talk about what we would like to experience. For example, she wanted to try whip cream on our bodies. I agreed, we tried it and we both found out it was not as good as in the movies (its sticky, etc.). Then we tried different positions, I now know what she likes and I stick to that. Once in a while I try to perform new stuff, and then talk about it, if we both like it, it stays if not we move on to a different thing.
2006-09-10 23:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by pacomilian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume that you are a female. It is very normal. Many women find it difficult to turn off their minds and just enjoy the moment. I once saw a picture depicting a woman's sexuality; It looked like a contol board of a jet airliner. The picture depicting a man's sexuality was an ON and OFF switch.
2006-09-10 23:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by I am Sunshine 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
talk to a sex theripist, they might actually recomment masterbation.
I have a hard time climaxing when I'm with a new partner, it's mental for me, but because I'm a guy it's almost expected so that makes it worse, at lease you can fake it.
2006-09-10 23:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you climax when you do yourself, then the problem is one of not enough foreplay or not the kind of foreplay you need. Also, you might try different positions to increase the friction on your happiest of parts.
2006-09-10 23:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay
2006-09-10 23:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by farm babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you most likely need more clitoral stimulation. if you cant get him to notice maybe you need to help yourself a little nothing wrong with it and then if you do that it may get the hint across that i like this not what you are doing
2006-09-10 23:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diddle yourself until you are almost ready to blow. Then have sex, keep diddling your self until he gets off. Then pretend you are getting screwed by the hot guy you work with and blow your wad. problem solved...
2006-09-10 23:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by quim f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O kay the next trying you being on the top and riding him. It does work I tried it and it worked for me and it felt great.
2006-09-10 23:18:31 · answer #11 · answered by lori_swink_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋