child support?

Question

My ex husband expects me to forward 130.00 to my child who lives away at college each week. According to his way of thought the money is hers. She stays here during breaks and Summer. Am I obligated to forward her the money? I maintain a lovely home for her and her siblings year round... Is there a lawyer in the house?

Answer 1

if it wasnt in the divorce decree you dont have too

Answer 2

Is she self supporting while going to school? If she is, then yes I think you should forward her support payments, for ethical reasons. If you are paying for the students living and educational expenses, while at school, then in reality you are giving her at least $130.00 a week anyways. Nix the debate about her "lovely home" waiting for her at break time and summer. Big deal, support money is not for that empty bedroom in your house. Thank heaven that in Michigan one does not continue child support just because a child goes to collage. How would every parent like it if a child could demand money from their parents just because they were going to collage?

Answer 3

Yeah you should give her some of the money. That is why it's called child support. Not ex-wife support. She still needs help away at college and if she is only there for breaks or summer then she isn't benefiting from the money except those few times. You are getting her support money not her.

Answer 4

Why that is so thoughtful of the ex! (hee hee hee) Can't imagine why he'd be so mad that you get to keep the child support when the child is no longer living with you. Honey, he's mad that he still has to pay. It is true child support is suppose to go towards the care of the child, and if you are helping your daughter out with tuition, dorm expenses, laundry, food, etc...like most parents with children in college, then no, you don't have to send her anything. If however, she's all on her own, then maybe your ex has a legitimate complaint. If his child support obligation is to that one child, then I'm afraid, by law, it must be spent towards that child's care. If it's not, your husband has the right to go back to court and have that support issued directly to your daughter wether you like it or not.

Answer 5

The money is TOTALLY your child's. Child support is exactly that. Support for your child. When she gets to your house on breaks and in the summer she can use her own money to buy the things that she needs. You are breaking the law if you are using the money for anything but your daughter. Why in the world would you want to cheat your own child out of her money from her dad!? The house you maintain is for you and your other kids. If you want, you can ask her to pay you rent when she gets home on break but what kind of mother would do that? I bet your daughter would be hurt if she knew how you were keeping her money for yourself. Typical "baby momma".

Answer 6

Mam That money belongs to your daughter. When she is away at College, that money should be deposited in a bank account every week by you. The money should be used for her living/transportation
while at college. The bank account should be in both of your names,
and she should have full access to it. That is she is responsible enough told hold a debit card. 25% of that support shold be put in another seperate account to be saved for that unexpected rainy day.
you should be the only one to be able too make withdraws. When your daughter is at home, you have the full legal right to the money to put in the household. Remember if your daughter ever cries wolf, and your ex hubby (gets wind of the situation). All he has to do is take you back to court, and the judge will throw the support order out the window. If he can prove you are not using the support for the right reasons, it is a done deal. The judge can make you pay the back child support to your Daughter. Yes he will. The best thing you can do is set up the bank account.
that wa you protect youself. Even though your daughter is still in school. She lives away from home. That gives your ex hubby leverage to make things change. don't ruin it for your daughter by making your ex hubby mad. Do the right thing and make sure she has excess to the money while at school. One thing I have to say if your daughter has to work while at college, and your not sending enough for her to get by. Shame on you. But if you take my advise good for you.

Answer 7

You have to check with your divorce agreement. That will have the answer for you. If you can't understand it, then you need to go to a lawyer to interpret it for you. If there is nothing stated about college, age, time away from home, etc then you are not obligated to pay anything. If you are, then you can always go back to court to try to change things.

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I misunderstood the question, I thought you were paying him child support. No, you are not obligated to send her the money. If he wants to change the dicorce agreement then he can go to the judge and ask for it.

Answer 8

If they're old enough for college, they're old enough to support themselves. I can see helping them out here and there, but no you shouldnt need to send that much weekly. A college student could do a lot of partying on that money. Does your ex send her money weekly? If it's child support your getting that he expects you to forward, that's child support toward the other children. Child support for the individual child usually ends when they turn 18.

Answer 9

You should, after all I am sure your EX is also paying for that home you live in too and the child support for the siblings. Get real Princess.

Answer 10

i dont know i would think if that child is not in the home more than six months out of that year the money should go to the child and especially if the child is over 18 as it sounds they are...that is how my step dads kids cases went...with his kids in college...i think yes the kid should get the money it IS for THEIR expenses not YOURS....am i right or not...they do live in a dorm and pay for their own food and such right....they have expenses...actually the kid can fight this.....

Answer 11

If you are the one who is supposed to pay child support, and your daughter is not 18 years old yet, then you need to pay the child support regardless of the provisions you have for her. Also, if you owe back child support you need to pay it, no matter what her age is. HOWEVER, I would NOT, repeat, absolutely NOT send it directly to her. You need to send it through your state's child support division so there is record that you've paid it. If you don't, there is not proof that you've paid it and that could come back and bite you some day. If your ex wants your child to get it, he can send it to her directly once he gets it from the state.