I started a "blog" 360 page on a whim one Saturday, added about five entries in a month just figuring it out. Put on some pictures of my family , then showed her what I was doing after the five entries,and she blew her top,since I hadn't told her for the whole month. She says "blogging is wrong and dangerous" made me delete all and I tried to remove from the web.
I think having a blog is just fun and I still want to and just leave comments about her and my kids out. She says now it is about trust and she doesn't have any now Anybody want to comment to us their opinions?
2006-09-10 16:05:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oops! i did it again? probably, that's been the reason all this while as to why she, all of a sudden blows her top. i think usually for some women, they'd rather you include her in decision making... its a together thing if its harmless. 1 month before telling her? why in the world did you do that for if you have nothing to hide? whose interest were you protecting? poor you, for having to delete but then again, if you had carried on, were you gonna tell her in the next few months? I'm sure its harmless to blog family history but you might wanna consider the fact that you have used certain episodes of not only your life but hers too w/o her permission. isn't it like a copyright thingy? pirated movies n such? same difference ain't it? don't get me wrong... I'm not siding you nor your wife but i guess its a matter of principles, u know? like, respecting each others privacy. you and your blog. your wife and her private affairs included in the blog. let's take a step back to ponder over this one....
2006-09-10 19:44:03 · answer #1 · answered by d-lite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication issues are at work here. That, and she sounds a bit controlling. I would imagine she has major problems with trust, whether that is a factor in your past with her or if it's baggage she brought along with her to your marriage. I'm getting a visual of her here reading this question and having a conniption over it. I sure hope she doesn't know your "handle."
I really feel for you. You probably didn't disclose your address, phone number, your family's bank account information, or your children's schools, etc. You were just having fun and I believe you. Her overreaction sounds almost like she feels you cheated on her. I can't feel for her. You weren't advertising your availability on an online dating service! You indicated you had a wife and kids, for crying out loud. Is she ashamed of how she looks? Is she ashamed of your marriage? I can see her thinking her privacy was violated but it's not like you were "wrong and dangerous" about it (as far as I know, anyway).
Get some professional help. I don't think the two of you can work through this by yourselves. I know this is the stock answer but sometimes a professional, unbiased opinion and help can be of tremendous consolation.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-10 23:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have given her a reason to not trust you in the past...hmm?? Since you are married you should be telling each other everything, from what you ate, to blogging, if that's what she or you want. If you don't tell her things, then don't expect her to tell you things. And when it comes to blogging about kids, that is always dangerous, no matter what. Someone could find out who you are, where you live, and stalk you. They could kidnap your children, because they know so much about you. They can piece things together about you and then poooof, your kids are gone. This is worst case scenario, but it's happened. So I think she is JUST in freaking out. Just be careful online, don't mention your kids, or your wife, especially since she obviously doesn't want you to.
Good luck.
2006-09-10 23:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is over reacting their isn't anything wrong with a man or woman making a blog I would be delighted for my husband to want to show off me and his kids because it would show how proud he is to have us and how much he loves us I would have a blog but I don't have a camera or scanner right now blogging can't be dangerous unless you give out your address , phone number those kinds of things other wise it can't be dangerous cause noone has a way of getting to you and why is it a trust issue?? it isn't like you cheated on her or watched porn this is ridiculous!!! she should be happy your proud of her and the kids it's just you love them so much and want the whole world to know I think it's sweet!
2006-09-10 23:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Under normal circimstances, I think most wives would not have a problem with a blog about their family. However, based on your situation and her reaction, I think there is more history here that feeds her reaction. Hot Shot, I think you've been a bad boy many more times than this, so your wife doesn't trust your intentions. If you want a happy marriage, one little step would be to forget about the Blog, period.
2006-09-10 23:13:04 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you. I think your wife has some other trust issue going on here. If you can't think of any reason she'd freak out about this, (you have had affairs, you've been caught looking at porn when she's available to you, there are weird numbers in your pants pockets) then it's probably her own issue. I think what you did was fine. It's only dangerous depending on what you put out into the great void, and to whom it's accessible. You MUST apologize to your wife, state clearly that you didn't want to hurt her feelings or upset her, or invite suspicion. Also, if you can get her into 360 herself, she can view your page, and that'd be opening up to her. Good luck!
2006-09-10 23:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is overeacting as well due to the fact your just trying to share your family with ur 360 friends and everything like if she is whining over a trust issue then there is something wrong with her this is the net she shouldnt be so bitter and uptight tell her to loosing up a little
2006-09-10 23:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~ Stormy Weather~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with what you did' sounds to me she's hidding something 'i have a 360 blog myself and they are cool you can share alot with friends 'unless you had her nude in the blog i think shes being unfair to you...Sorry Poor Guy
2006-09-10 23:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by bossy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like she is over reacting a bit, but I can see her point of view. If you like blogging then try avoid writing about your family, and write about hobbies and interests instead
and tell her u love her..
ooh and if u like doing stuff with computers make a slide show just for her with a beautiful song in the background with pictures of u two together.. something romantic to tell her your sorry...
2006-09-10 23:13:41 · answer #9 · answered by coco_k22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on if you have given her a reason not to trust you in the past!!! Not to mention if you were only writing about your family then why did you wait the month to tell her??
2006-09-10 23:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by shortone22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋