2006-09-10 15:02:29 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you truly like this man, or do you just want to date a man because you don't want to be lesbian? If you do have feelings for a man, maybe you are bisexual and not lesbian. Just know that you are a beautiful person no matter what your sexuality. And anyone that you get together with should realize this- yes. If you're with a him, tell him about your past. If he sees how beautiful you truly are, it won't bother him at all. Good luck!
2006-09-10 15:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you mean tell HER about your past? If you're a lesbian and you change sexes to become a man, I assume you'll still be dating women, right? My guess is it doesn't matter if you tell her or not, she will know. One look at a surgically created penis and that will be the first giveaway--they have *almost* perfected making a vagina out of a penis but they have come nowhere near perfecting constructing a penis out of a vagina. Not only that, but you'll still look feminine and have some feminine qualities. But, to answer your question, yes, I think she has a right to know. Nobody wants to find out on a daytime talk show like Jerry Springer 5 years down the road.
2006-09-10 15:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by surfinthedesert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ol..your wording made it sound like you are talking about a sex change operation..but I am assuming you mean if you switch to sleeping with a man.
Yes, you should tell him as I believe a relationship should be based on total honesty. Although one risks losing the person, it is a risk they must take.
You must also tell him your reasons for switching so he can evaluate his own feelings about the situation with all the facts.
Be aware that some men with just date you in the hopes they can see if they have what it takes to "convert you" and others in the hopes you will agree to threesomes or letting him watch you and another woman in bed rather than because they like you or want a relationship with you.
There is a possibility someone who knows your past or has been a partner will cross paths with him and tell him and this may cause you to lose him down the road. It is best to lay it all on the table now instead of after you are in love when it will be much worse should he decide to leave over it.
You need to decide if you are wanting a relationship that is faithful or just some sex and experiences with a guy as if you are thinking of a relationship or marriage that you question yourself as to whether you are able to totally leave your past in the past as many innocent spouses are hurt when their partner leave them or has sex with another person, especially one of their own gender as they feel they cannot compete.
Some people feel differently and welcome this but others don't. You need to be very clear on what the situation is and the person's true beliefs if you feel you cannot remain faithful or just in general.
If you are considering trying to leave the gay lifestyle and are a Christian consider learning about "love won out" who claim they have many members who left the gay lifestyle and married the opposite sex and now have kids. They may be able to be of help.
good luck!
2006-09-10 15:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me see, without sounding judgmental, homophobic or intolerant. In the most accepting, loving way I can put this: If you feel that you have to be DISHONEST about who you are, then what are you really basing your relationship on? It sounds like selfishness, self-centeredness and lust. Loving relationships should be about mutual love, respect and most importantly, TRUST.
Maybe the fact that you ask this question, suggests that the world or the "Christian" world is not judging you greater than you are judging yourself. And that is the way that it should be.
You know that you don't want people to be dishonest with you so do unto others likewise as you want it reciprocated.
2006-09-10 15:11:44 · answer #4 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean if you "change" to a man? If you have been gay for 32 years, how do you just one day turn it off?
2006-09-10 15:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE.......can you imagine if he found out down the road and it wasn't from you.......tell the man.....he might make ya get some test done....but hey being honest is the best way to start a relationship you wouldnt want him to have some secret and not tell you and then you find out down the road......
2006-09-10 15:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by Do I know you? ya right LoL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say you are a lesbian...so if you change to a man why would a man be involved?.....you would still be a lesbian even after the sex change so the desire for women would still be there.....you would need to tell him or her the truth because if they find out from anyone but you....be prepared for an old fashioned a*ss whipping!
2006-09-10 15:05:38 · answer #7 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually you will because you don't want to hide it and let him find out in the future, that could be worse.
However you have to deal with the consequences, not every one will react the way you want. It's kinda tough but be honest is the smart thing.
2006-09-10 15:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. How are you going to hide your 32 years of history?
You should be honest.
2006-09-10 15:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by CharWiz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably. Isnt there a good chance you'll go back to women? Seems like it would be fair to let him know he's basically an experiment.
2006-09-10 15:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Phil S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋