Ok, so this girl is My best friend, like My sister. And, she is dating this guy, named Tom. And, she keeps telling Me that she is not dating him & I know that she is . And, she posted that she hadn't changed the relationship status on Facebook yet. But, the truth is, wouldn't she have changed it when she noticed that it hadn't been changed?
And, she may be pregnant with his kid. And, I've told her 3 times before that it is either Me or him . . . & it can't be both
I hate the guy & she & him both know it.
Do you think that it is right if, she turns out to be pregnant with his kid that I just stop talking to her?
2006-09-10 14:56:23 · 13 answers · asked by meganxrenee07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
she's your best friend... you should be there though everything, including the dirt-bag guys. it sounds like she needs you now more than ever. chances are, things won't work out between her and this guy. let her know that you don't think he's right for her and that you're worried about her. but that you will always be there for her. you'll see... evertually he'll be gone and you will still have your best friend.
2006-09-18 06:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really are that close, then no guy can ever get between you. She knows you dont like him and if she may be pregnate she doesnt need the stress of being told wha a loser he is by anyone right now. Im sure you have your reasons for not likeing him, but she needs your love during this time. If you cant support her, then yes it is time to move on.So long as they love each other, take care of each other, and do not abuse each other, than as her friend be happy for her. One of my best friend knows I cant stand her husband, but at the same time I am still happy for her. Him and i just clash personally, and I will admit he does take very good care of her, thats all I have ever asked. Think about it hun.
2006-09-10 23:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, she already made her decision. If she is still with this guy after you told her it was you or him, then she chose him. I had a friend who was "like my sister" for 13 years, we are no longer friends. If she is doing things that hurt your friendship then she is not your friend no matter what she says. She'll just keep walking on you till you stop her. About the guy, What is he doing to make you hate him? Does he hit her? Is it something else?
Pregnant or not if you don't want to be her friend anymore then don't be. Don't let her drag you back either or she'll just keep doing it.
2006-09-10 22:39:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nate's Mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys aren't as close as you say you are. She wouldn't lie to you about dating him if she really was your best friend. You might hate the guy, but it's HER choice who she goes out with, if you really care about her, you'll support her even if she has a baby.
She probably didn't tell you she's going out with him because she knows how much you hate him. It's her decision, don't be selfish. If she gets pregnant, you'll know you're right, but don't be a b**** and tell her "I told you so" because then you'll be the worst person in the world, you can say that years later, but if she does have the baby, she'll need your support, give it to her. Right now, talk about how you don't like her keeping things from you. You can't decide who she likes, who she wants to be with, or what she wants to do, but you can talk to her about fixing your friendship.
2006-09-10 23:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by cyn1c4l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this girl is pregnant then she needs to be with the babies father and you should not stand in the way of that. If you think she is lying to you, then you guys aren't as good as friends as you think you are and you all need to grow up. If there is a baby involved, she needs to get help if she is young and immature.
2006-09-10 22:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by motherofthree 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A true best friend wouldn't drop a friend because she doesn't like the guy she's with. And, if she's pregnant, that's when she'll need her friends the most.
2006-09-10 22:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by Susan W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stop talking to your best friend over a guy??If she is your friend you will stick by her side no matter what happens!!I understand that you hate this guy but obviously she does'nt & she is your friend,he does'nt have to be.You don't get to pick who your friend gets to be with,even if he is a piece of crap.It is her decision.Who are you to give her an altimatum?Well i hope evrything works out for the both of you!!
2006-09-10 22:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by hotmama 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay, You need to ask her why is she treating u like a so un-call friend she knows u hated the guy and she went and had sex with him.. u need to leave her and tell her why ur doing this.. she is constantly hurting you and u need to move on and find a best friend and that's like another sister to u...
2006-09-10 22:14:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yuh, and just let her know that from now on, you'll be making the decisions for all of her life choices or it's OVER!
Sheesh, the audacity of some people amaze me.
2006-09-10 23:05:31 · answer #9 · answered by jude89 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think you are being a friend. Friends are there for each other through the good and the bad. Friends don't make their friends choose between them and their boyfriend.
2006-09-10 22:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋