and then a few days later start talking and gushing endlessly to you about their new lover? i would never do that to someone i broke it off with. do lots of people do this and think its ok?
i really dont understand women even tho im a lesbian.
2006-09-10 13:45:25 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i know its ok for someone to break up with me! i just meant that its a bit insensitive for them to start banging on about their new lover so soon after they split up with me, knowing i was still upset!
2006-09-10 14:39:23 · update #1
It isn't women...what a cruel thing to do..and it's been done to me..after a 7 year relationship that I thought was really wonderful..he dumped me..I was crushed and he knew it ---and then he continued to talk on the phone with him while i was still in the room--all the time....(it's hard to find somewhere else to live in 1 day)
2006-09-10 13:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's definately very inconsiderate for your "ex" to do something like that to you. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be around someone who thought that doing something like that was all right in the first place. Honey, just keep your head up - You don't need to be around people who do those kinds of things.
Bottom line is, it's simply not okay. I'm not gay, but I'm bisexual, and I was with a woman for three years and when we broke it off and just remained friends, she told me about how she hooked up with some other chick. I was devastated because I didn't want to hear about her new "lover" or how she made her feel.
Personally, I would never brag about my "new" lover to my ex. It's very hurtful (I know from experience).
Most people do it to "get back" at their ex, or just to make them jealous. Those are very childish games, and I would most certainly NOT be interested in being friends with people who thought that was "okay".
2006-09-10 23:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a serial offender of this. Only recently when the tables were turned did I realise how incredibly hurtful it can be. I used to do it because I believe that a partner is my best friend who I have sex with , therefore - just because were broken up and don't have sex anymore doesn't mean that Ive lost the friend aspect of it. But now with maturity has come a new more delicate defining perspective of relationships. I would never do it anymore to anyone ....unless I was purposely trying to hurt them.
2006-09-11 00:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by antibim 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Human decency and manners and appropriate behavior are expected no matter what the issue. Stand up for yourself. Tell the broad that you are not interested in hearing about other people's relationships as they are all temporary and a waste of effort to embrace.
Women are wired in ways that men cannot understand where it all comes from. I cannot even begin to comprehend Lesbianism. But, then, it is none of my business and I say go for it, babe.
2006-09-10 20:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why do people break up and then continue to talk is my question? What is up with this common place pratice? When you end a relationship, the other person needs to GET OUT: of your life, your bed, your house, your car, your circle of friends, etc. Make a clean break and you wouldn't have to listen to endless chatter about what's going on in their lives now that you don't fill their bed everynight. Honestly who cares what their up to, just as long as their up to it with someone else, and leaving you alone. Stop listening, this is partially your fault.......
2006-09-11 10:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your ex to do that is indeed bad form, but then some people are incredibly tactless. But resist the urge to fall to their level. Move on to other pursuits as soon as possible. It might seem the breakup was necessary if this person treats you like this; you need someone who will give you the relationship you deserve. Good luck.
2006-09-10 21:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely understand where you are coming from! No i don't do it, even though we are not together any more i still care about their feelings, i wouldn't appreciate it so why do it to them. i think its insensitive and uncalled for to do that, Possible 3 reasons why,
1) she is trying to make you jealous
2) trying to see if you still like her by your reaction
3) she has no brains
No one understands women that's why we are so fun and unique lol.....
2006-09-10 22:05:18 · answer #7 · answered by *Aus*Surfer*Girl* 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's very insensitive. On the other hand, you might want to be glad such an insensitive slob did break up with you.
2006-09-10 22:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by DelK 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its alright to break-up with people. If anything your ex lacks couth. That she would disrespect you like that is very telling of the person she really is.
You deserve to be happy. And if being happy means cutting off all ties to your crass, raffish ex, so be it! Good luck.
2006-09-10 22:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Active Denial System™ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to sit and listen to anything you don't want to hear. Your ex might just be trying to make you jealous and envious about them being with there new lover.
2006-09-11 00:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋