2006-09-10 13:44:34 · 19 answers · asked by cubbearrobot 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
She doesn't. She realizes what every man who has done it feels like. She gets her priorities in order, try to be a better person and not repeast her errors.
2006-09-10 13:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your words 'shattered.. heart', 'restore his faith & love' I guess the situation is not that good.
Chances are the partner invested a lot of emotion, a large chunk of his heart into the relatiosnhip expecting reciprocity. But there was none.
If the girlfriend really cares about the partner, she should let the partner find himself without interference; apologise, explain if at all possible, and leave. Let him have the chance to be happy with someone else.
If the partner forgives, then it's the partner's choice.
2006-09-10 15:07:15 · answer #2 · answered by ekonomix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say if you really loved him you wouldnt have done it in the first place to begin with. So logically wouldnt you agree with me 100% that whatever comes after you prolly deserve it. Maybe its in your subconscous for wanting to regain his faith and love to shatter them again, i dont kno, only you kno the answer but i personally would recommend that you move on and find someone else. The best you can do for him is just remain friends but thats if he so much as wanna take it that far again with you.
You should always remember this one thing, its better to have put ur all into a relationship that didnt work out in the end than having to say am sorry in the middle of a relationship trying to win back his/her love!!!
2006-09-10 16:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by ChanteC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. some people cannot restore the trust they once had in a partner who has been unfaithful. others can but need time to heal.
All I can say is that you can give him some time. there is no guarentee, but all you can do is try.
You should talk to him about it. that is, if he knows.
Good luck.
And next time, try and be a little less selfish about your actions.
2006-09-10 15:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Liz L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry hun but you have to play it by time n even then im still not sure if your relationship will ever be the same once the trust has gone its very hard restore it again
depending on the circumstances
the only thing you could really do is be there for each other
hope all goes well for u both
2006-09-10 14:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by vic84 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult..
Long slow process and he will probably remember it forever...
I don't know if you can ever completely restore your love to what it was before......The damage will always be there...
A few people can completely put it behind them but for most, it is always a little bad spot...
You might be better off finding a new boyfriend and starting over
with a clean slate..
2006-09-10 14:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer must come from you, NOT her.
As I've already said...
It's either:
1) over, so move on buddy,
or
2) you REALLY love her, so if she did sleep with this guy then you'll forgive her (because it was just a bit of sex, OK) & forget about the vows (yours or hers?) and make it work.
You've been trying for nine years, you should know by now. Time to be honest with yourself, I think.
Good Luck.
2006-09-10 13:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by fruitbat7711 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend -- "We can have sex anytime you want but please forgive me" lol... just kidding. That ain't actually gonna work.
Ans:
Not easily. Trust is very difficult to earn... too sensitive to break. Once somebody loses it, it'll even take the person a lifetime to rebuild it.
Unless, otherwise, the girlfriend suggests they move to another place where nobody knows them or nobody knows what they have been through. Then probably suggest a brand new start.
2006-09-10 21:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are.
If the guy accepts that a slapper is always a slapper, and will experience the same event again in the future at some point (guaranteed) then he should be happy. Well, not happy........he will always remember and always regret not sharing his lost time with a better person
2006-09-10 22:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jon H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her/him. I swear youll be so glad u did in future, rather than it happening again. He/She isnt strong enough to leave, show her you are. I was in the situation and i ignored it n carried on and i regret that several years down the line. Its not about who chaeted on who. its about what is for the best now.
It doesnt sound like shes/he begging you to stay, so dont.
You will find its for the best.
You probly dont believe me cos u have no self esteem right now.
2006-09-10 15:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by hmmmmmmanna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋