2006-09-10 13:38:36 · 18 answers · asked by cubbearrobot 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No I don't think they can. Doesn't mean we don't cheat tho.
I'd like to say that my reasons for cheating were valid but I doubt they were. If I was looking in from the outside, I'd think I was crazy for screwing up a great realtionship - but sometimes we just aren't happy. You've got to try and pinpoint why you are unfaithful and see if you can work on it. Its hard, I know that. Sometimes there is no solution, there is no way to win.
2006-09-10 13:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is justifiable, but I have a guess as to why it happened. The only factor that I would take into consideration is the upbringing of the unfaithful person. If he/she grew up in an environment where one of their parents cheated then that may be all that they know... or if they were brought up in a manner in which they were always lied to by their parents. In this situation, when a perfectly great relationship is given to them, it is too good to be true. So before this person gets hurt, they do something to ruin the relationship themselves. This way their significant other didn't do the damage, but they did it. For the first time, this person controlled who is hurt.
I hope that made sense. I don't agree with cheating, but this explanation is the only one that I find that would "justify" cheating.
2006-09-10 15:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if they are frigid or impotent or in prison or unavailable in a long term way. But then in those circumstances are they really a partner to begin with?
All situations are unique.
Look at the REAL situation, cliches are dangerous and people get hurt.
If u are considering being unfaithful realize it may hurt you too. If its allready happened only you can judge how that feels. If its been done to you, like wise.
Its better to split up with a partner than to be unfaithful sometimes.
People live in different ways. Its how it feels that counts.
Its certainly ideal if you dont feel the need to be unfaithful.
Everyone has passing desires. Its the feelings of strong need that are of concern.
2006-09-10 14:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by hmmmmmmanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Justify to yourself or to the partner?
There is no point trying to justify to the partner, apologise (if you sincerely feel bad for what you did to the partner) and give the partner time to decide what to do. If you don't feel sorry, then don't apologise and still let the partner decide.
Justifying to yourself is also pointless. What is done is done. If you feel bad about it, learn the lesson. If you don't then may be you are better off without a very loving sensitive loyal partner, not the type of partner for you. (and the partner better of too in the longer run).
So do not justify, look into yourself and discover what you really feel. Then act accordingly.
2006-09-10 15:12:08 · answer #4 · answered by ekonomix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you ask means that there is something wrong with your relationship. Tell your partner of your unhappiness. If they are unwilling or unable (physical or psychological problems) to cater to the relationships shortcomings, there are grounds for a once and once only fling if you are the type that can deal with that sort of thing, and if it would get it out of your system (they must never find out, not even a confession years later to assuage your guilt). Firstly, you should analyse yourself - is it just a sense that there should be more in life? (we all get that), is it boring with you partly to blame? are you being influenced by unrealistic images from films and media?
So, you could just about scrape a cautionary yes, but in the vast number of cases it would be a resounding no.
2006-09-10 22:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Silkie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I couldn't be unfaithful. It doesn't mean that I have not met a few wonderful people over the years with whom I could have formed a relationship but I have always held firm to the vows I made. How would you feel if the tables were turned. We humans are supposed to be above cheating when we have promised to be faithful.
2006-09-10 13:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by Learner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be justified if you are an insensitive and disloyal oaf who thinks with their er... 'bits', and doesn't know when they have good thing going?
However, feelings of entrapment or suffocation too early in a relationship can be a cause. Whether it is 'justifiable' to be unfaithful on those grounds... it's really a question of personal and social morality.
2006-09-10 13:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mark B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if the other partner does not love the very loving, sensitive, loyal partner? What if the first partner is unattractive, smarmy, clingy, or just too damn pushy or bitchy? What if they are obsessive or totally into themselves? Who wouldn't cheat on them? They have it coming and they were just asking for it.
2006-09-10 13:47:41 · answer #8 · answered by Richard E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm pretty old fashioned, but I say no. If my partner ever cheated on me, I wouldn't give him another chance. It would be over and i would not accept any excuses. I expect people to treat me with the same respect that I treat them, and I could never do anything like that!
2006-09-10 13:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Suki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is a mistake that should be corrected at once. Repent and fill the gap left in between. Start a new life and sincerely commit yourself to your partner and live a happy life forever.
2006-09-10 13:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sam X9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋