My best friend aparently has been bi all his life
and didn't tell anyone
and with him knowing how much i despise bi, gay and lesbians
he still took my heart this summer
we kissed a few times
and i always felt the magic
but now that he's announced that he's bi i feel very uncomfortable around him
he's very pissed that i took it so badly
i don't know what to do
i don't want to loose my friendship with him
but i don't want to have feelings for a bi guy
(if your bi don't take this offensivly, its just my moral and relgious standards)
but please give me some advice
2006-09-10 13:29:19 · 11 answers · asked by chelseaoyesums 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Chelsea I cant see why you cant love this guy as he loves you doesn't your faith tell you that your lord and Savior loves all his children in all their diversities and with all their faults if that is what you see his being bi is . the fact that your friend has emotions and feelings for both sex's shouldn't make you freak out at him after all don't you have female friends that you are close to well what he feels is just a step further into the love he has for them I'm a straight male and I can see why you don't like to feel the Way you feel but it doest make him a bad person and you of all people should know what a wonderful guy he is with your 10 years of experience with him . open your heart it what your church tells you to do love all the people of the world
2006-09-10 13:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by slick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If u don't want to lose friendship with him then continue to be his friend and try to understand that he is the same person. It's just that u discovered something about him that u don't approve of and as far as u having feelings for a bi guy, thats something that can't be helped because the heart wants what it wants. U shouldn't judge him because he's bi, thats him and it's always been him.
Just think about how hard it must to have been for him to tell everyone his bi knowing that everyone is going to look at him in a different way and maybe not even want to be around him anymore.
U ask if Anyone's bi not to take offensive because of morals and religion standards.
U should try to realize that he is still ur friend and u should try to use that relgious as a way of try to make him or others feel bad because he oe she is bi or gay.
He's ur freind who u said took ur heaart and just like that ur ready to dump him because he's bi, U don't have to be his girlfriend, but u should continue be his friend
2006-09-10 20:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do what ur heart tells u to do ... My lil brother just came out and said he was gay a year ago and our relationship is the same as its always been so Just do what u Feel is right ... NOthing is wrong with gay bi or lebians in my eyes good luck
2006-09-10 22:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by catherineboo68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's religious and morals .u don't have to like it but ur not suppose to hate him either ....either u can get past this or not how deep is ur friendship ??if it's true friendship than ur friends no matter what ,but if u have feeling for ur best friend than u have done crossed the line of friends to something more and maybe u should move on ..
2006-09-10 20:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stand by your morals & beliefs and still be his friend. I would doubt your belief's give you the right to judge him. Maybe you feel as though he led you on and if so you should talk to him. You don't have to always approved of some ones life style to still be a friend.
2006-09-10 20:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by That's my final answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stay friends with him.
I know you don't want feelings for a bi guy, but you can always be friends with him.
Even though you may not support their orientation, that doesn't mean you need to stay away from them.
They need people like us ;)
2006-09-10 20:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by ryan78230 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! That is a low blow. He should have told you beforehand. I would simply let him be upset but tell him that I am not about to led that type of life. I would be his friend but nothing more.
2006-09-10 20:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry. Try not to think about it - ask him not to talk about it around you - and enjoy him as a friend while you have him - life's too short to think about something like this.
2006-09-10 22:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being very shallow and self centered. If your going to let something like religion dictate who your friends are, then I pity you.
2006-09-10 20:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You liked him as a best friend before you knew this and now you don't. His preference should not matter to you if he is really your friend.
2006-09-10 20:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by redwidow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋