How do I come to terms with death when I know that my own is just around the corner?

Question

I have a 6 month old baby who I love more than anything on this earth & I am soo incredibly scared of leaving her without a mother. I am also scared of what happens after I go but I have only been given 6-12 months by my doctors. I'm not a religious person, how can I make peace with the fact that I have to leave this earth?

Answer 1

well i was told that myself 21/2 years ago . don't go and do anything stupid now. There's always hope. Besides I sat in the woods for 8 months by myself at first doing the kemo and surgery's and wondering about everything too. just try to get things ready the best you can and things have ways of working out somehow. She may be without you some day any way . no-one knows when we will go on . At least enjoy what you have now and be thankful she is ok .Time is short here on earth when you think about it , even if we live to be 100 which not to many do . Just wake up in the mornings and open your eyes , yes things sure seem different but really nothing has changed. So don't beat yourself up honey always have hope and faith. You,me or the Doctors cant pick and choose what is going to happen. Live everyday like it is your last , who says that something cant happen to you sometime between now and the next six months. We never now so hang in there fight and enjoy things the best you can everyday as they come ok. I hope the best for you too. It's never to late to find the lord either. I don't go to church but i believe in God.And also in the circle of life. Check out the Lakota and Cherokee web sites there is great knowledge about life and mother earth and the Great Spirit and the cycle of life.

Answer 2

Don't do what I did. I went through a long period of misery, then accepted the fact that all things are impermanent. That was at a young age. Around 4th grade. Nothing was built to last on this earth, we're as expendable as insects or ants, and that's how it's meant to be. When A dog dies you buy another, we're on the same level, just animals with a different advantages. Birds can fly, Animals are strong, and Humans have logic. In the end, we're still that. Expendable creatures who can be replaced. It was never meant to last. Best thing to say is don't think about it. Do what you always wanted to do and bring the most out of your life. When you die, that'll be your time to think about it, if it's in your sleep, then you wont feel a thing. They say do not worry about what you cannot change. I think that's fitting here. On a more spiritual note. You can realize one thing. The fear of death is an egotistical thing. If all things are truly one in the universe with balance, then death is simply a change as thought day changes to night. Just a change, you'll still be a part of the universe as a whole. The universe is a constant that cannot be changed. It's existance was Infinite. A paradox yes, but things without beginnings don't have ends. You're a part of the universe now and you're a part of the universe after death. Not much of a change there. It's just the egotistical aspect. That's where one let's go there pride and focuses on becoming with with the surrounding environment, learning to accept the way things are and gaining wisdom and assurance from it. Simply to appease the egotistical aspect of dying. Universally, there is no change. Cells die in your body all of the time. New ones replace them. Does that change you at all? You're still you even though those small changes take place, right? that's how it works with the universe. And I can rest assured in knowing that.

Answer 3

I would suggest finding people in similar situations. Also, remember live your life well because what the doctors say is not always true. But cherish every moment and you will have nothing to regret and your daughter will be able to have wonderful stories told to her about how wonderful your last little bit of time on earth was with her. I wish you the best!

Answer 4

I hope you are not lying because I gave an honest answer before, but I was not able to post it. Yahoo went on break. I believe in divine intervention and what I wrote may have been a little outlandish, but true if accepted. So it was not to be posted. To sum up what I wrote is just come to grips with your own path. And none can deny the inevitable. I too one day will die. And it is what it is.

Answer 5

Religious or not,you will never leave your child,you will continue to watch over her until the time comes for her to join you.I know you are afraid,I was with my sister and my father when they passed,believe it or not but with my dad,I held his hand and walked him half way,where we go is not a place to fear,here on earth is the place to fear,make peace with yourself,install a love in your little girl that she will never forget,make her a video of all the things you want her to know so that she will have your guidance in life and make peace with God.May all his blessings be upon you and your little girl.

Answer 6

Many people will disagree with this, but that is simply because they are close-minded and perhaps maybe even do not want to accept it as a possible truth:

I used to be terrified of death. Could never get the thought of the unknown out of my head, I couldnt just let go of it and accept it. After while it really starts to limit what you do. This all changed after my first experience on psilocybin mushrooms. About 1-2 hours after I ingested them I thought for sure I was actually dying, I had convinced myself and I was fighting it and fighting it. I ended up heading for the bathroom for a puke session. I realized more things while I was in that bathroom than I have ever realized in my life. I realized that it wasnt me that was dying, it was my ego that was. I realized that my ego had become so attached to my spirit that I could not tell the difference. I could feel it fighting its death. I heard a voice tell me that it was ok and that it was ok to let go, I then felt this overwhelming re-assurance fall over my entire body. I ended up laying on the floor and focusing on letting go, letting go of everything, my mind, body, spirit, and ego. This revalation of how life and death are apart of each other and they are nothing to be afraid of fell over me and I was more peaceful and relaxed than I have ever been in my life. I knew what I had experienced was death, psychological/ego death. I am now convinced that there is more to experience after death. That is the only thing that we are afraid of, our ego makes us afraid to die. Once you realize this you can truely live free without any burden.

They are just starting to do studies with psilocybin (the main psychotropic substance in psychedelic mushrooms) with people that have terminal diseases. This wonderful drug shows you that death is nothing to be afraid of, and it shows you how to let go. I hate to put it like this, but I see it as a sort of death training. Its truely a miracle when used right.

Another drug that might fancy what you are seeking is DMT. Its the most profound and intense of all psychedelics. I have only tried it once and I believe that it is something everyone should experience once in their lifetime. Words do not do any justice to the experience. I have heard people say that it turned them from atheist to religious in about 10 seconds

Good luck in your quest and I wish you the best for what time you have left, cherish it, do not waste a single second :)

Answer 7

Contact a kingdom hall in your yellow pages tomorrow and talk to someone who can help you find just the answers you need to be able to die knowing that you will see her again. Its real and you need those answers for sake and your peace of mind.

Answer 8

Know that death is also a part of life and that life cannot be controlled by us. Seems strange but if you give it some thought you may see that you are more than your body.

Everything that you are and want to be is just that.

Answer 9

DEATH, be not proud, though some have callèd thee
Mighty and dreadful, for thou art not so:
For those whom thou think'st thou dost overthrow
Die not, poor Death; nor yet canst thou kill me.
From Rest and Sleep, which but thy picture be,
Much pleasure, then from thee much more must flow;
And soonest our best men with thee do go—
Rest of their bones and souls' delivery!
Thou'rt slave to fate, chance, kings, and desperate men,
And dost with poison, war, and sickness dwell;
And poppy or charms can make us sleep as well
And better than thy stroke. Why swell'st thou then?
One short sleep past, we wake eternally,
And Death shall be no more: Death, thou shalt die!

-John Donne (1573–1631)

Answer 10

Most people consider life to be the opposite of death. It is actually birth that is the opposite of death. LIFE is what we do in between. Live what you have left to the fullest.