It's my birthday this coming Sunday, and I accidently found out what he's giving me! IT IS SO LAME! I know that's cruel and shallow, but I feel that after 15 years of marriage, he would know a little about me! I'm going to HATE it! And he never seems to be able to read me right! It's getting worse as the years go on...I talk to him about my feelings, and he stares at me like a deer in the headlights. I'm afraid if he gives this to me on Sunday, I might throw it back at him...I know that makes me sound like a b*tch, but really...does he even know my name for God's sake? Why would he buy me something that is SO NOT ME! I'll never wear it....if you're wondering why I havn't mentioned what "IT" is, it's because some might say, "OH! That's cute, you should love that!" But, that's not the point! the point is...it's not me, I'm not a "cute" kind of woman, I'm a hot and sexy woman. I'll hate it...any advice?
2006-09-10 13:23:52 · 16 answers · asked by Laurie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't remember the last time my hubby bought me a card or gift...it's been years.
At least he thought about you.
2006-09-10 13:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do,do not throw it back at him that will hurt his feelings. Do you realize there are some women out there that do not get anything for their birthday? I just want to know how the heck you found out what he was giving you? Do you also realize that it is the thought that counts? I am pretty sure you gave him gifts that he does not like as well. Did he throw them back at you? I am more worried about the way you wrote this letter as if you are just to good to get a gift like that.
Resolve the problem tell him that it was very thoughtful of him but is there anyway that you can take it back because it really is not your style. Do not be mean by telling him" you jerk why did ou get me this"!!!! He might just not want to get you anything else from now on.
2006-09-10 13:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to ever get it unless you tell him flat out. A sneaky way of doing that? Put a picture of what you want on the fridge! Every time he goes to get a beer he will see it. Tell him when he asks what its there for that, you just really hope one day that you can get it so you like to look at it a lot. I do that for my husband, I did it when we were dating also, and I always got what I wanted!
2006-09-10 13:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy birthday !!
I so know how you feel, I am at the point now that I hope he does not remember my birthday because of that same issue. I have learned to open it and smile and say a sincere thank you then give it away. When his birthday comes I do the same thing. He gets the same crappy stuff
2006-09-10 13:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I lived in amarriage for 13 years like that.. that is a tough one.. it is hard to hide your feelings when you know he bought you something he thougth you might like... instead of giving you something that you want. The only thing I can say accept the gift and next time you get him a gift get him something retarded... when he asks you why you bought that for him.. tell him well, I figured after 15 years, you can't put any thought into my gift and get me something that I want then... why should I put any thought into your gift!. See how he likes it when the tables are turned. Men are selfish!
Carrie
2006-09-10 13:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Brett M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alright, you gotta act fast since you only have a few days for this to work, but what you do is come home from work tomorrow and tell your husband about this woman in the office who just received ______ and how awful you thought it was. Hopefully he will get the hint and return it. Good luck.
2006-09-10 13:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by VNCGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys just dont get it . . and most likely never will. Not because they are not listening to you . . . just because they are in tune to women and style and that some women dont wear or like certain things. Luckily my husband knows just what to buy everytime . . but i have felt your pain before - my ex used to ALWAYS but the exact opposite of what I would want/like. I would even tell him whatever you think i will like buy the EXACT OPPOSITE . . and he still didnt get it. Just tell your husband from now on to buy you spa treatments or something like that. Im sure he couldnt mess something like that up.
2006-09-10 13:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 1st off all calm down and secondly dont open too him cuzz oviously he dont care there 4 you just need too be stright up cuzz it seem that been too sentimental just doesnt always work so then just say it like like it is oo and about the present just welll..... give him a hint hint i know what youre gettin me and dont gett it cuzz youre goin down soo yeah tell him what you want with out been so sentimental and if he dont listen then sacre him a little cuzz it seem that hes an air head so yeah make him pay attention kk so good luck and well happy b-day so yeah
2006-09-10 13:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by candy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say thank you. Buy yourself something later that you like.
Honestly, maybe this goes deeper than just your birthday. Maybe you've had a good run. Go ahead and divorce him, you deserve someone to know who you really are (why they would want to, is beyond me) and he deserves someone who will appreciate him.
2006-09-10 13:29:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least you are getting something. Tuesday is our 19th anniversary and all he's mentioned is his birthday the next day. I will confront him but at least you guy is bothering and bothering to remember it at all!
2006-09-10 13:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by Valeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋