how do explain to the judge that my child should live with me?

Answer 1

Don't tell the judge. Show him. Whatever you have to support your position, bring it.

Answer 2

Unless u got a bond with the child, the judge will never let a child live with you.
If u got a bond with the child, write the judge a letter and express it on paper, then when its time to get your child, the judge will have had to think about it from the letter.

Answer 3

Explain how you plan on providing for him or her, in terms of health care, food, clothing, shelter, college education, emotional well being, and financial concerns. Explain your DETAILED plans for his or her upbringing and your own professional and personal growth.

If you have any issues in your own past (arrests, drug use, deliquency, child neglect) be prepared to be hit and hit HARD on each and every single instance. Be prepared to explain what you did wrong, how you have corrected it, and how you will prevent it in the future.

Avoid prolonged arguments concerning negatives over who would be caring for your child (if it is a custody case, do NOT spend more than 2 minutes on the negatives about the child's other parent). Judges are more interested in planning and responsibility than in pointing fingers and blame.

If the state is trying to take your child, why is this the case? If there is any serious (drugs, arrests, child abuse or neglect) legal issue facing you, then it is likely going to be extremely difficult to retain custody, whereas a custody case between parents has more hope. Good luck, if you deserve it. I will pray for the child to be in an environment that is loving and supportive, as well as safe and healthy.

Answer 4

Your Honor,

In the best interests of the child, I ask that you grant that the custody of the child be awarded to me, who have the higher income, and who has the proven track record of caring for the child.

As you can see from Exhibit A, I have taken my child to pre-K, Kindergarten, and school to the present day. I have attended the PTO meetings. I've prepared the child's lunches, had supper ready in the evening, and also engaged the child in creative and educational play and learning activities.

My criminal record shows no felonies, and (fewer or none, circle which) misdemeanors.

I have shown

a) excellent progress in drug rehab
b) responsibility in living a drug and alcohol free life
c) a high degree of professionalism and family values in all areas of life
d) by my actions and words a consistent Christian/Jewish/humanist/other lifestyle.

Etc. etc.

Have character references too, credit reports, whatever documents will show you are a "superior parent or guardian."

I hope this is the case.

Answer 5

I don't know where you live but most time's if the mother is around she will alway's get the childern no matter how good you are to your childern. Sometimes if you have the wherewithall and can afford a very good lawyer, he might be able to convince the judge that the childern would be better suited with you.GOOD DAMN LUCK! The system is set up to screw the men, so you better just go and get a jar of vasiline and get ready!

Answer 6

My friend is going through a very big trama in her life because she doesn't feel like she is living witht eh right parent. Ask your child. If they want to live with you then tell the judge. Make sure you have a safe home environment and make resonable income.

Answer 7

Well the best way to tell anyone why your child should live with you is why you feel they should. Be honest and straight up. Do not blame or dis the other parent. Say why you feel you can provide the better home for your child.

Answer 8

You need to just speak from the heart but speak "factual" also. In the end, the legal system is only interested in the welfare of the child and may not take into account your heart feelings or concerns, especially if other child professionals are already involved.

Answer 9

by explaining to the judge why your child shouldnt live with the other person

Answer 10

Point out all the pros versus cons to the judge. Be sincere
in your statements.Hopefully the judge will see your point
of view. Good Luck!!

Answer 11

You need to give a reasoned argument as to why you are the better parent for the child