My friend is using me! Whenever she has no friends to come over or hangout with she comes to me. And the next day at school I will try to talk to her or hangout with her and she ignores me. She hangs out with COOL kids.....and sporty kids. I ain't into sports and I think im cool. So please help me with this problem...what can i do to stop this!!!
2006-09-10 13:14:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
guess what, you are being used and you allowing it to happen. you use the term friend loosely, i would not call someone like that my friend.
you sound pretty level headed, seek friends somewhere else, someone that will appreciate you. someone only uses you if you allowing them. you are in control of this situation, stop allowing the other person to be in control.
2006-09-10 13:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move away from her. She obviously doesn't like you for you and thats not the way a friend should be. I have a really good friend that likes to have people at her house a lot, otherwise she gets bored, thats her way of enteraining herself. And despite the fact that i'm sure she could be friends with people that are prettier or smarter or cooler and move into the same things that i am, she's always there for me and always inviting me around a lot.
You should try expanding your circle of friends, introduce yourself to more people if you don't have any other friends and gradully move away from her. If she really is using you, she might not even care, but if she does notice you aren't hanging out as much, talk to her. You could take the easy way out and tell her you or you parents just want you to make some more friends and you think this would be a good chance. Or you could take the honest way and tell her how you feel. She may just lie and say thats not what she means to make you feel. Or you may find that she really is a great friend and never meant to make you feel that bad, and she will stop doing it.
I hope you sort it out and everything goes well! good luck and god bless you!
2006-09-10 13:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with other people and don't talk 2 her like if you don't no her and if she comes up 2 u just ignore her like she does 2 u and she will start 2 get the point(hopefully) and she won't come up 2 u anymore
2006-09-10 15:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by jinxy_jv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up for yourself! The next time she comes over just because she has no one else to hang with, tell her that you aren't a spare tire and that she needs to act one way all the time and not be "sometimezy" (meaning, if she's going to talk to you sometimes, then she needs to do so all the time, and if she isn't, then she needs to leave you alone).
2006-09-10 13:17:43 · answer #4 · answered by ?~GotLove~? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dragon if this keeps on happening i would think that she isnt a real friend and you can do better then that. So ignore her and hang out with some other friends that you have and next time she wants to hang out with you, dont cause shes not worth it.
2006-09-10 13:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is using you this way, she is really not a true friend.
Take her aside and tell her , if you are not good enough for her when you are in a group, then don't try to be a friend at all.
If you loose her, it is no big deal because she wasn't your friend to begin with. A friend is someone who you can share everything with no matter what , and they have your back and you have theirs.
2006-09-10 13:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Steve D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might confront her and tell her what you have noticed and tell her you hoped you are wrong.....or you might just be busy a time or two when she calls and see what she does then. Hopefully you have other friends you do things with. It is not a good feeling to feel used and you might let her know that.
2006-09-10 13:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by ladynamedjane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple have nothing to do with her.your only going to keep getting hurt.you don't need her. what kind of friends acts like that?.maybe when she has nothing better to do and she cant run to you .she can sit and think about what a jerk she was.your probley to good for her any way.find a real friend who is a good person like yourself.
2006-09-10 13:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldn`t say that she is a friend,more like a pain in a neck.she is useing you,so loose her for someone that will want to spend time with you.
2006-09-10 13:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by horseknickers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When her friend are around, go tell her to drop them and come hang out with you. If she tells you no, then tell her to quit coming around when they're not there.
2006-09-10 13:35:36 · answer #10 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋