why does she not wear what i like?

Question

ok first i've been with my girlfriend for 15 yeras now, shes 43 now but still has a nice body. i ask her to wear the same kinda cloths,pants,blouses,bras, Thongs,but she does not, all she wants to wear is (t-shirts) reg jeans,never wears anything sexy, even at home at night, i have bought her a few pairs of short shorts to wear around the house, she even complains abouy this. i know it may not be a big deal to some, but it really is starting to get to me, because its the same oh,same oh be honest Please,is this wrong on my part? thank you

Answer 1

well i think you should let her wear what she feels comfortable in. i mean you cant let stupid things like this tic u off if uve been together for 15 fricken years, maybe you should ask her if something specific is bothering her. your not a girl so you wouldnt know she may have low self esteem. tell her she looks hot in the stuff you want her to wear.

Answer 2

I had the same problem at first with my husband at first and all i wanted to wear were my granny gowns and panties. DO YOU TELL HER SHES SEXY? Even though she isn't dressing sexy for you, you still have to make her feel sexy in her joggers and t-shirt. Start there and I promise things will start to get better. Also TELL HER THAT YOU WOULD LOVE TO SEE HER IN _____________. Say "I think you wouldlook sexy as hell inthis lingerie i saw at the mall" It's all about making her fell good, because deep down she may be having an emotional thing going on where she doesn't FEEL sexy and that's big thiong with women, if we don't look or feel the part, then there's no need in trying to act the part either .

Hope I Helped. EMail me and let me know how things go. Start off slow. maybe a long silk gown. Don't push her too fast it may take her a while to get used to this but she will start feeling sexy and will but things for herself b/c she knows you wanna see her that way .

Answer 3

Not entirely, no. To be completely honest, the emotional attraction in a relationship is just as important as the physical attraction. Now, you should, obviously, be physically attracted with your partner no matter what the circumstances, but it is always nice to get that extra little bump when they wear something sexy, right?

So, no, it isnt wrong on your part to want your partner to get a little bit sexy for you once in a while. However, continuing to pester her about it is wrong, especially if she has been rather vocal about her disagreement with your intentions. I would suggest you talk to her about *why* she wont wear anything sexy for you; maybe she doesnt have the same opinions of it as you do and doesnt like your selections? To that end, after youve discussed it, go out with her to the mall sometime, and work together! Find what SHE thinks is sexy, and come to a conclusion of what works for you both.

Answer 4

Of course you are wrong! Do you want to wear a string bikini that she picked out for you with cupids or leopard print all over it? Bottom line is her body is hers and not yours. She is not your barbie doll and you have absolutely no say in what she wears. I'm sure that jeans and tshirts are comfortable to her, so that is what she wears. You should be happy that she knows what she likes and that she is content with who she is. The thing that you should be worried about is how long its going to take her to realize that she doesn't need presents that she isn't going to use from you or anyone else. I once knew this guy who had a girlfriend that wore a zero in pants size and he would take her shopping. She would take her zero pants into the dressing room and he would follow her with a double zero knowing that he could get her to try them on, as if she wasn't anorexic enough. The point here is...no one should make you feel like you can't be yourself and express yourself in the ways that you see fit...and that is exactly what you are doing. So chill out on the critisism and tell her how beautiful she is instead of telling her how she needs to be different than how she is now.

Answer 5

No it's not wrong on your part that you want your lady to dress a little sexier. You say that you two have been together for 15yrs well there's your problem. She's gotten comfortable with you and probably feels that she doesn't need to dress like that for you anymore. OR she could be feeling neglected or taken for granted. Remember from your perspective you don't see it that way but she may.
Sometimes when men buy things like that for their ladies the ladies figure that all you are after is a piece of ***.
I wish my husband bought me those kinds of things I think it makes all of us women feel sexy. You should find out, from your lady why she doesn't want to wear those kinds of things anymore.

Good luck.

Answer 6

No it's not wrong on your part for you to want her to dress sexy somethings. Maybe she is self-concious about her body and doesn't feel comfortable wearing sexy clothes. It could also be that in the past when she dresses sexy men come on to her more and she doesn't like that either.

BTW...you never mentioned how you dress in public and around the house. Do you dress nice?

Answer 7

Yeah - don't make a big deal about such things as it sounds like you are doing. She may feel you are trying to force her to conform to your wishes and she wants to keep her on individuality. I would thing that is very much the case that if she have been with you for 15 years and she has demanded that you marry her by now that her sense of individuality is very important to her (to what maybe be an irrational way). The more you make an issue of it - the more likely she will probably resist and resent you. Like her for who she is and not what you would like her to be.

Answer 8

After 15 years of being your girlfriend you must know by now that she's not going to change her clothing style. You know what she has underneath her clothes....Yeah, its wrong that she needs certain types of clothes and its a bit shallow of you. Maybe she'd compromise on dressing a little sexier for you in the home if she were married to you.

Answer 9

Women like to wear what is comfortable to them. You can buy all you want...but that ain't going to change anything. Women will wear sexy clothes wihen they are comfortable and in the mood to wear something sexy. My advise: Back off, and focus on just making her feel special and relaxed and not like a Barbie doll that you want to dress...because that is what she feels like when you want her to wear things. Sorry, it's true.

Hope this helps

Answer 10

Yeah, you are wrong. If you want a live-in whore, buy her the appropriate clothes and expect her to wear them. If you want a wife, let her choose what she finds comfortable to wear around the house.

I wouldn't push the envelope on this, unless YOU are prepared to lounge around the house dressed as a Chippendale dancer! Good luck!