But I cannot stop thinking about him. I fantasize about him, I fantasize about other handsome man chasing me in his office and he sees that .... etc. How can I stop it ?
2006-09-10 10:57:17 · 5 answers · asked by Natalia P 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Seek professional counseling...fast!!!
2006-09-10 11:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by Amina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Totally normal but quite a dangerous situation. The thing is, you have to find out why you are falling or have fallen for your doctor. Have you known him for a long time already? What is it that really attracts you to him? Understandably, you also want him to think you're attractive (hence, the fantasy about the other handsome men).
As long as you're seeing this doctor, you can't stop it. It's an emotion. Trying to stop it will only prevent you from uncovering the real reason for your attraction and may show up in a pattern with other men (unless of course there is really something unique about this situation with your doctor). Try examining if this has happened before and you may be able to get a few more answers. As for now, my advice is talk to a person you trust. It prevents the situation from developing into a potentially dangerous sequel (because of the accountability to your friend) plus, it also lets you breathe out all that load. But make sure it is someone you are 101% sure you can trust and who will not judge you. I also suggest finding a group (online or face-to-face, whichever you may be mroe comfortable with) which also deals with situations similar to yours. The amount of insight and support that they give are very often invaluable and are of much help.
Hope this helped. :)
2006-09-10 19:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Nadz U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for the 1st thought enters your mind.You are responsible though for the what you do with it. Obviously, you are entertaining that first thought and getting some immediate payoff and paying a price for them later in terms of your own serenity and peace of mind.
It is a trap. Those 1st thoughts are bait luring you in to a trap that steals your serenity. The religious people would tell you those thoughts, once entertained, are adultious. (certainly the nature of the thoughts are adulterious) So the first lie is that you can get good results from bad thoughts. The other lie is that if i entertain these thoughts just for a few minutes I will then be satisfied.
The truth is that within the bait is a hook and in a Biblical and literal sense to be hooked is to be taken captive. It seems that it started off as you running a few thoughts around in your head and once you got hooked you became a slave to the thoughts and the thoughts were running you.
The solution is in asking God for help in removing them just as soon as the 1st thought enters your mind until that response becomes just like a knee jerk reaction.
God Bless You.
2006-09-10 23:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by quarterton2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird. Sorry to say, but that's weird. You say you're in love with him, but you fantasize that he sees you being chased by "other handsome" men? And he is married. You need to get a new thought, and maybe don't go to him anymore. You just tell yourself you'll think new ways, and then do it. It's not hard. You can control what goes on in your own mind, right?
2006-09-10 18:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understandable. Is he your shrink? Try using displacement. Think about what you like in your doctor. Try finding a guy who is available (ie not married) with those same qualities. Or better yet, think about the kind of qualities that you desire in a man, and things you can deal with (his faults). Then seek to find this one.
2006-09-10 18:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋