i have been dating this guy for a while , but now i feel that we are moving in opposite direction in life and i would really like a chance to just concentrate on me and my girls. he will alway be in my life because we have kids together. but i just don't feel we have the connection we once had . he is a nice guy ,but i just don;t want to be his girlfriend anymore ,
2006-09-10 10:55:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
put on 25 pounds. It allways works.
2006-09-10 10:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak frankly to him. Tell him exactly what you've said in your question. He shouldn't take offense, since you claim you're both moving in opposite directions. Maybe he would like to break up and find another connection, but hasn't got the nerve to say it to you. Be sure to emphasize how nice he is, and that you still want to be friends -- especially for the sake of your children. If he's decent, he'll contribute to their support until they're of age. But don't continue to be in a dead relationship. It's not going to amount to anything more than it is right now. Give yourself and him a chance for a more fulfilling life. Good luck!
2006-09-10 11:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you that you know in your heart that this isn't working out! As for breaking up with this man and wanting to be "just friends"...that is tricky. A guy's ego bruises easily and he's going to feel very hurt. I wouldn't mention the friends part right at first. I would say talk to him and tell him exactly what your feeling and for how long you've been feeling this way. Make it known through your voice and actions that being friends is what you want. Let him know that you still want him in your life; just not in this particular way.
2006-09-10 11:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to break up with him. It's up to him whether he wants to stay friends with you after you dump him. Don't string him along, don't try to get him to break up with you, just explain it to him pretty much the way you state it in your question. Anything else just compounds the pain and drags out the suffering. You'll also want to be ready for the possibility of him having different ideas about childcare than you.
2006-09-10 11:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Katrina im randy rpoker@yahoo.com keep in touch i'll guide you thru this break up for real! ide do this first, get him alone, i mean alone, set him down,let him know your feelings for him have changed as of late, and you are just not happy anymore,and would like a New Start, let him know ty for the past and he will never be out of your childrens life.but let him know you just can't deal with the bf thing any longer
2006-09-10 11:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could try poisoning his food eh? (Just Joking)
Really though have you tried to spicen your
love life up in some way? Could deny him sex,
that would make a guy leave in no time. XD
2006-09-10 11:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by DarknessWithin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM THE TRUTH AND TELL HIM WE WILL ALWAYS BE FRIENDS BUT RIGHT NOW I NEED SOME SPACE .LET HIM KNOW THAT IF IT WAS MEANT TO BE WE WILL BE TOGETHER, NO MATTER WHAT, I JUST WANT YOU TO UNDERSTAND THAT I NEED A FRIEND RIGHT NOW .SEE IF THAT WORKS
2006-09-10 11:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1: ARE YOU INSANE!!! YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE WHO YOU JUST BROKE UP WITH AND YOU HAVE KIDS!!!!! OF COURSE HE WILL HATE YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!! YOUR INSANE!!!!
2006-09-10 10:59:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋