my bf of five months dumped me after i got a positive pregnancy test 3 actually. i felt sad and alone he told me no guy would ever date me . i decided to go out and flirt to prove him wrong and ended up meeting someone else that i met at my college orientation he asked me out and we totally hit it off he know nows i am pregnant and awnts to now if we can have sex?is it okay for the baby?i am nervous i have only ever had sex with one guy and am not sure if i want too?
2006-09-10 10:28:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
not sure if i am emotionally perpared for this.
2006-09-10 10:29:59 · update #1
am i just taking sex too seriously
2006-09-10 10:32:02 · update #2
he said he never had sex with a pregnant girl before and cant do any damage
2006-09-10 10:38:36 · update #3
Don't have sex with ANOTHER boyfriend. Promiscuity is BAD.
You are pregnant.
You are in school.
You need to figure out what to do.
Adoption for your unborn child might be your best option. You don't seem mature enough to keep your clothes on in the presence of a guy!
You need to finish school so you can support yourself.
Then get a good career going, and then get married and take time off for kids.
IN THAT ORDER!
You are about to make another mistake. Rushing into a relationship so soon after getting jilted. Rebound never makes sense.
Just take care of yourself and your unborn baby. Those are your prioities.
2006-09-10 10:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it won't hurt the baby for you to have sex, unless of course the guy has some kind of STD and passes it on to you. So make sure you use a condom. But really, it doesn't sound like you are ready to have sex yet. If this guy is good for you then he will respect you and your decision to wait. If you feel like you do want to have sex, then go for it. A word of caution, I'm not saying this is true in your case, but when my friend in college got pregnant, a bunch of guys were trying to have sex with her because there is a stupid rumor that it's better with a pregnant woman. Be careful of jerks like that, make sure this guy is genuine before you have sex again. Respect yourself. And good luck, I'm so sorry the guy that got you pregnant turned out to be such a chicken sh*t b@stard.
2006-09-10 17:39:05 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wont hurt the baby to have sex but if he has an std it can. So even though there is no risk of pregnancy you need to use the condom... If he already knows your pregnant he wont want to... He will say he's been tested, some tests wont show up until 6 months after you get them.. So you can never be sure. If your not ready. DON'T.. Wait. If this new guy is worth it, he can wait!!!
2006-09-10 17:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you do not feel that you are ready, don't. if you are, it won't hurt the baby. in a normal pregnancy, sex is fine and won't hurt the baby. but just because you are pregnant, you should use a condom. if not for you, then for your baby, unless he wants to take an std test. one danger while pregnant is unprotected sex with new partners. good luck. oh and if you get cramping during sex, as I do, you're not hurting the baby. already asked the doc that question. the baby is in a safe place and the cramping is normal.
2006-09-10 17:52:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the rush ???If your not ready then don't do it...As far as the baby well u should be seeking prenatal care and the doctor will tell u if u can or can not. You might want to wait to because u really don't know this guys intentions. Most guys don't want someone esles baby to raise.So he might just want some sex. You should have someone who loves you.You deserve it. Good luck
2006-09-10 17:40:10 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it feels wrong don't do it and I would wonder about a guy that wants to have sex with someone is is pregnant with someone elses baby. He may just want to because he knows that he can't get you pregnant. I wouldn't especially if you aren't emotionally ready.
2006-09-10 17:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is completely safe to have sex while pregnant. My doctor told me until it is time for the baby to be born. I would suggest going out and buying the book What to expect when you're expecting. It helped me alot through my first pregnancy. When the baby grows more as well it usually will just rock him/her to sleep.
Make sure you are on birth control next time and you are more educated on sexual activities. This happens all the time to girls who just looking at the romantic part of it instead of the practical with sucm bags as your ex.
2006-09-10 17:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ally, Having intercourse will not hurt the baby, but you are at a very stressed and emotional time of your life. If you are that nervous, please do not have sex. I can nt believe that the guy wants to have sex after he found out you are pg. like it ok to have sex. Does he think that you sleep around. Sorry about your irresponsible boyfriend dropping you after you became pg with his baby. Be strong. Tell you parents and lean on them for support, after the shock we parents stand by our daughters.
2006-09-10 17:40:30 · answer #8 · answered by shortansassy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl SLOW DOWN!...You just got dumped you have a baby to think about, and your in college too?...Why do you need to sleep with a new guy right now?....And why does he want to have sex with you right now, when he knows that your pregnant?...Is he planning on staying in your life and adopting the child?...Focus on yourself, and the future of your baby....Forget men for now.
2006-09-10 17:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by pregnant & praying now has baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its not harmful for the baby but i don't think u need this now for other reasons if you was taking sex to serious you would have done some kind of birth control in the first place i think emotional you don't need to do this if he want syou know he will want u in 9 months after baby is here
2006-09-10 17:40:22 · answer #10 · answered by turnerdvdk 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋