It's no big deal to me that he has gained weight, I just want to know what I can do to put the spunk back in the bunk haha
I am 27 he is 33
2006-09-10 10:06:27 · 21 answers · asked by momma whitley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It could be the weight.
But since you are asking, I'll put the question back to you. What are you doing about it? Your sex life is at risk!
You have to work at it, momma. You can be pro-active and add some spunk back into your relationship. Tease him, make him anticipate some special fun, let him know you are ready to go. rawr!
Sooooo much of the mating ritual is men showing off for the ladies. They strut, sing, whistle, croon, show they inner-boy, fight, pose and work to entice you. And you find this very entertaining. Men get tired of doing all the work. Tired of chasing, initiating, tired of being turned down, tired of it being your choice and we have to be ever-ready on constant stand by.
I see a lot of questions on here; wives wondering where the spark went in the bedroom. Simply put, early in the relationship it was enough to just -- show up and drop those clothes. After a while showing up is not enough, men get restless and want action, they need a responsive lover with different facets.
The number of people who accept "low sex drive" is astonishing.
That kid stuck it in a pie! Even in a healthy sex life, Masters and Johnson report men masturbate on the average of four times a week!
Show him what a jewel you are, let your personality shine through and your desire sparkle! Let that diamond on your finger represent how valuable you are, how beautiful you are and work to make this spunk get back into the bunk!
2006-09-10 10:30:28 · answer #1 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should suggest you two go jogging together. Tell him that he looks sexy when he's running. Jog in front of him so he can check out your rear view or behind him and pretend (if you have to) to check out his.
Throw some hint around like making a light dinner of mostly vegetables and let him know you would like for both of you to start eating more healthy. If he still doesn't get it, make the hints stronger and stronger.
Men don't always get hints. You might just have to tell him straight out he's put on wieght. But don't tell him the wieght gain is turning you off. It will only make him insecure and may discourage him from dropping those pounds.
If all else fails, "take care of yourself" in the shower before sex. After all, you still love him, right?
2006-09-10 10:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to maintain a sexual desire after years of marriage. The key is variety, not of partners, but of doing new things together. Initiate a subject to talk about with him that is new, prepare new dishes occasionally, go out together, leave the kids at home. Weight can be a turn off, so encourage him to lose some. Some soft porn DVD might rev the engine up.l
2006-09-10 10:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? His weight gain has probably made him too self-conscious to be happy in bed. He may dread taking his clothes off in front of you, and he may be ashamed of how he looks.
At the same time, be honest with yourself. Do you still find him as attractive as before? He may be reading your body language that says you aren't as into him as before.
Start working out together, and give him tons of praise along the way. Not condescending remarks, but things like "You look so sexy," or "I can tell you've been working those biceps!"
This will boost his ego and exercising will give him more energy in the bedroom.
2006-09-10 10:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...weight gain does sometimes have a negative effect on the sex life, because you'll often lack the energy you once used to have. Get him revved up by exercising together. Frankly, when my sweetie and I exercise together, we find it invigorating - not onlly because we like fitness, but because it makes us want to sweat in other ways...ahem. Now, he's working out more, getting the weight off, and getting his energy AND endorphins up...the sheets will get hot again, trust me.
2006-09-10 10:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he wants to go on a simple diet with you. My husband and I have noticed that when we go on the south beach diet that after a week we end up having way more sex then normal!
2006-09-10 10:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the book store and buy this book 100 ways on how to make love to a man. everything you need are in this book. fun, and games. are take him to another place away from home could help, can't hurt. I've been there.
2006-09-10 10:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I love how the men on here make it sound like it's your problem. If the roles were reversed they would be calling you a fat ***. I say tell him to hit the gym or threaten to have an affair. That's what a man would do!
2006-09-10 10:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
write an obituary, about your sex life, and send it to your local paper, mention about,his weight,and age but no name, and show it to him...............sign it spunk in the bunk
2006-09-10 10:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by bull 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then why bring up the weight issue if it doesn't bother you. Do you think it bothers him? If so let him know that you still find him attractive.
2006-09-10 10:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by vlg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋