Should I confront him?

Question

My boyfriend told me that he was going to his daughter's school with his exwife today for parent's day. He also said there was a dinner after the day. I was curious and I found out that the dinner is not for another month, so I know he lied. I think he wanted to have dinner with the exwife because it would have been their anniversary today. Should I confront him?

Answer 1

Personally, I feel u should definitely let him know how u feel about this situation...knowing what u do now. I know the "lying" part of it probably bothers u the most and in this case your feelings are valid. However, try not to turn this into a big blow up fight. Confront him, yes, but do it in a calm, rational manner. He could just be trying to do the "family" thing for the sake of their daughter but this doesn't mean u don't have a say in it, since u are, afterall, part of his life now too.

Answer 2

You should ask the daughter if she was happy to have her parents there together. Do it in front of him. If he tries to explain, because the daughter doesn't know what you are talking about just say, ok how was the dinner with the ex-wife. By the way the lady at the school said you were invited to parents day next month. Now could we please talk alone in another room? When you get him into another room lay it on him. Let him know that the lies do not work with you.

Answer 3

You can ask him if you want. However, you don't want to start causing problems with his daughter. You need to remember that although he is divorced, he still has a daughter. He and his ex-wife will need to do things together (like school events) for their daughter. Maybe eventually you will be included. He may have just lied because he was worried you would be uncomfortable if he had dinner with his ex and his daughter or it may have been an innocent mistake. I would guess that he loves you. The two of you need to communicate and decide how to become comfortable with his parenting role with his daughter. Keep in mind if you became crazy jealous over the ex-wife you could end this relationship. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I would ask him about it. But you need to be careful to say it in a way that he does not automatically get defensive. Just say, I know that the dinner is not until next month so is there a reason why you went to dinner with her tonight? (don't mention that its thier anniversary).

Answer 5

Not yet. Get more evidence. It will be devastating for him to know that you were following his game all along. Once you have it all, put your cards down and watch him read 'em and weep. It's devastating for a man when he knows he's really been watched like a little baby plying in his crib all along. That will make him refrain from other shenanigans.

Answer 6

Obviously, you were suspicious before you found out the truth so, yes. You should question him about this and you should question yourself as to why you are in a relationship with someone you do not trust.

Answer 7

IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT LYING THEN DONT WORRY ABOUT IT ESPECIALLY IF YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION YOU KNOW DEEP DOWN HE STILL THERE FOR THE EX HE SEEMS HE STILL HAVE A PART IN LIFE THAT HE STILL LOVES HER THE CHILD IS ALWAYS A TIE BETWEEN THEM BUT ON THE DAY THEY GOT MARRIED DINNER COME ON GET READY FOR THE HEARTBREAK

Answer 8

You should ask for an explanation. Confront is a strong word. Ask for an explanation and then take it from there.

Answer 9

yes,I think you should if you suspected him of lying. Maybe there's another explanation but you only going to found out when you asked him

Answer 10

Why were you "curious"? Why didn't you just trust him in the first place? Has he given you any reasons in the past not to trust him? Are you insecure?