what does it mean that my wife and i of 1 year argue all the time?

Question

we had sum stressors a new baby my job a new house

Answer 1

Stress will cause people to be aggravated and argue over the littlest things.When you find yourself getting aggravated ask yourself how bad is it really and tell her to do the same.That should help you to see that its probably not important enough to argue over.She may also be tired and could have post part-em depression.When your all stressed out just make sure and remember why your stressed out and don't take it out on her.If things don't improve you should probably check into some marriage counseling.

Answer 2

stress will make you do and say things that you do not mean,maybe you both just need a day or two away to spend some quality time together just the two of you,it is very stressful a having a newborn child and financial problems seems like a person can never get ahead no matter how hard you try but you just got to do the best that you can. take her out to lunch let her know how much you care for her,offer her a day or two to get away, let a family member watch the baby and you two go do something fun and have a little quiet time among just the two of you. good- luck

Answer 3

Well, I see both sides. Usually people get out of the clubbing stage around their mid-20s. I'll be 30 next fall and I haven't been to a club in about 5 years. It's a bit silly after a while. But, if that's your thing and you go maybe twice a year with girlfriends, then I don't see a big deal as long as it's just you girls having fun, and no other men involved. I've gone out for drinks with my friends to a pub, but we don't invite men or people we don't know to join us. So, it's your call. You could always take a camera with you and take a couple photos of girls night out and show your husband. I don't view it as needing his permission, but it may make him feel more at ease, and you don't have to do it more than once.

Answer 4

My hubby and I went through the same thing right after marriage. Marriage is a huge stressor in itself. But now, four years later, we're trully having our honeymoon and couldn't be happier! Stick with it, the rewards will be great! Marriage is something you have to work at. The best things in life are that way.

Answer 5

You are learning each other. Anytime you have two different people in a home together, there are going to be differences. If it is the bills, just thank God that you have a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food on your table....put yourself on a budget so that you can continue to provide for your family. If it is the baby, realize that there are people out there who cannot have a baby....appreciate the one you have and realize that this little life is depending on you both. If it is the job, love it and appreciate it because someone out there is trying to find one.

Answer 6

Arguing is a form of communication and it is much better then not communicating at all.
Hang in there, these are the hardest time of your life. Be grateful for your health and for your family. I have to remind myself this everyday.
Start going to church, it may make a difference.
And take everything with a grain of salt, you are both under a lot of stress.
Make sure to establish a relationship with a good babysitter and have you alone time together with your wife.

Answer 7

Wow... you need a vacation... only the 2 of you!!! job, baby, house and fighting. You better fix it fast before you turn into me. Vacation... therapy... if time or money or scedule is an issue, then agree to set aside half an hour and a special quiet-time place to talk. maybe 20 to talk and 10 to just hold each other and kiss. (first or last). best of luck.

Answer 8

It means that the "honeymoon stage" is over and "real life" has taken over. U said so yourself...stress of new baby, job and new house. Welcome to real life...lol! You're probably in the adjustment stage and how u argue during this stage will make or break your relationship so just remember...communication is always the key, learn to fight fairly and let go of the "small stuff".

Answer 9

Sounds like a money problem! Couples argue, but if it is an on going thing, you two are going to have to sit down and have a long talk or your marriage is headed for big trouble!

Answer 10

Marriage is like mashed potatos, in the sence of the union. Two potatos are beaten, then whipped together until ther is one potato. So this is a good sign, to ease the process, however, is to start considering each others needs over your own.