its my first time there..and I have an appointment soon with the gynecologist and my mom still thinks im a virgin(i told her i was still one) and when they check me up they can obviously tell that im not will they tell my parents?
2006-09-10 09:19:28 · 16 answers · asked by Sandy 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
and what if my mom tells the gynecologist to see if im still a virgin is there any way they wont do that?
2006-09-10 09:20:14 · update #1
1) You say it's obvious, but it's not. All they can do is see that you do not have a remaining hymen, but there is a wide variety of normal variants to start with, and some women lose this thin layer without sexual intercourse. (For all they know, you did this yourself... and in many cases, this is exactly what happens when young women experiment with masturbation and vaginal penetration.)
2) If you want to talk to your doctor privately, they will respect your wishes and ask your mother to leave.
3) If a doctor has any reason to suspect that there are signs of physical abuse, they are supposed to talk to you about it in a way that would allow you to speak freely. This often involves separation of young women from the proximity of parents for at least a short while.
4) As a minor, your parents are still required to make medical decisions for you, and are entitled to view and obtain all medical records. If you do not show any signs of abuse, and you wish to obtain private medical counselling, most providers would be happy to help by talking to you and keeping it "off the record" although they will record something like "sex education counselling performed -15 minutes" in the chart.
Hope that helps.
2006-09-10 09:30:20 · answer #1 · answered by bellydoc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, a dr. can tell if you are sexually active, but due to confidentiality, they cannot discuss any medical issues with your parents unless you give your consent. No worries, hon! Just let the dr. know that you don't want your mother to know you're not a virgin, and legally, the dr. can't say a word about it, and if they do, you have a lawsuit waiting to happen. So really no worries, because if (s)he blows the whistle on you, you can have enough money to run the hell away from home, lol. That was a joke, but they are bound by HIPPA and confidentiality laws that have you covered.
2006-09-10 09:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Nille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gynecologist can not discuss your health with your mother unless she has your permission. It is a violation of confidentiality laws to discuss health care with someone other than the patient. The patient has to sign consent forms for the doctor to be able to discuss health care with another person. Your doctor will not tell your mom. It is good that you are going to the gyno, especially since you are now sexually active.
2006-09-10 09:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by Maggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, you need to tell you mom the truth, sure she may freak out, but that would beat being a unwed mother. From experience I can tell you, that having a baby as a teenager, will freak your mom out much more than if you sat her down and told her whats going on. She may even (after she calms down) appreciate that you told her. Fortunately for you (maybe not your mom) the doctor cannot tell her that information. However I STRONGLY urge you to tell your mom, she has been through more in life than you are giving her credit for.
2006-09-10 09:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by cyunos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually there is a confidential relationship between the Dr and the patient (YOU). Tell the Dr you prefer to keep your information private. He should honor that.
Now about you and your mom. If you are mature enough to be engaged in a sexual relationship, you need to be adult enough to tell your mother if that is what you wish to do. I am assuming you are a consenting adult right? If you are a minor, then your mother is worried about you getting into a situation you might not be able to handle. There are also diseases that she is trying to prevent you from getting. So my best advice is to sit down and have a talk with you mom. Be honest. You will feel better about it after it is all done. And besides, who better than your mom right?
2006-09-10 09:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most doctors will let her come back to the room ,but be for they check you they will ask her to step out .That's your chance to ask them to keep your business quite.
This is when the patient ,doctor relationship comes in they will ask you if you are sexually active and if you say yes they will examine your breast and give you a pap smear to check for diseases.if you are having problems and that is why you are going in they will also do a blood test to check your thyroid .and make sure your not pregnant.
I think your mom already knows your not a virgin .
2006-09-10 09:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine814 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the doctor's responsibility to maintain confidentiality with you, the patient. Trust me, this is not a new thing for the gynecologist!
They should not tell your parents if you ask them not to.
Most gyne's are sensitive to this issue, and should promise to maintain confidentiality. If not, refuse to get up on the exam table. Simple as that.
2006-09-10 09:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by Pangolin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps I may be wrong, but won't mom have suspicions if the doctor prescribes bc pills? Granted, bc can be used for other purposes, but mom may expect some answers to her questions after that.
2006-09-10 10:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by kartouche 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she does tell your mom she not going to just come out and say "your daughter has been having sex" she'll probably let it easy and say that your passage to your vagina has been split and stretched and its a possibility that she's not a virgin///if not that then make excuses not to go...
2006-09-10 09:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by becca . 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u still young, u can ask the doctor not 2 tell, or face ur mother with this fact.
2006-09-10 09:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by wild spirit w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋