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i am 20 in my second year of college and decided to keep my baby because i feel that it was my mistake to go out and drink too much that led to me having sex with my ex. bf. my college has a daycare center on campus i have a job as an assistant secratary that pays 10 dollars an hour my mother is the owner of the small buisness i work for but my parents pay for my car and college. i spoke to my father and he told me he would still pay my tuition and our insurance would cover my medical billsand allo me to live in the house as i do now but he see's the cost for the baby after its born as my problem and says that my mother and him will not babysit for me.Is there anyway i could still go to school i dont want to put it up for adoption?

2006-09-10 09:13:36 · 14 answers · asked by jackie w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

as of now i am relying on my ex. bf child support check

2006-09-10 09:15:17 · update #1

i have a bf who has fogiven me for this mistake but am embarrassed to ask him for help.

2006-09-10 09:16:45 · update #2

am a full time student taking 16 credits and my ex. bf works at a bowling ally and goes to school.

2006-09-10 09:21:11 · update #3

never nw kids were this expensive!!!!!!!!!

2006-09-10 09:22:30 · update #4

14 answers

So what is the problem? Your school has a daycare. Your parents will foot the medical and tuition expenses. You are a lot better off than most people in your situation. Don't worry, things will work out for you, you'll see.

2006-09-10 09:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think you can manage. I'm 17 and going to school full time and going to have a baby. There is programs out there that can help you. And with you getting child support you would be able to handle it. It might be rocky sometimes but you will get through it.

try to get:

Medical card
WIC
Mountain Heart

But if you dont get those then i think with child support and making 10 dallors an hour you will be okay you just cant buy everything at once. Plan ahead.

All during my pregnancy i used my money for bills and the extra for the baby stuff.

And think when you have a BABY SHOWER you will get tons and tons of presents. I did. The more people you invite the more gifts you get and im sure your mom would want to do this with you, because this is her first grand-baby from you this part isnt an expense its a get together of family.

2006-09-10 18:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0 0

You can absolutely do this! I just had a li'l girl. She is 7mo old. I take her to work every day. She isn't running around yet. But so far she is very easy! She sleeps, never cries much! School will always be there for you. It sounds like your family supports you. Your ex also! You should be very proud of yourself. This baby will bring you joy beyond your dreams.I feel if you do not stress yourself out over this situation, you remain calm, focused, your baby will be calm also.Your parents will be there for you. Try to pay for whatever you can to show them that there help is not such a necessity, but a gift. As for babysitting,the campus daycare will be of great help! How wonderful and convenient. You can form your baby's schedule to suit you. A great book is called " The baby whisperer" by Melinda Hogg. It is THE BEST ADVICE EVER! She is amazing at her aproach to helping new moms. Also, you will make friends who are mommies and they will understand and help. Your parents will probably not be able to stand not having the li'l bugger around at all times! Again though, make that a gift not a necessity.No adoption is necessary here. you are loved too much to be alone in this. The fact that you are keeping the baby should show you how strong you are! Congratulations on your wonderful new life as a mommy!!!! This will be the most fullfilling act of your life! Embrace all the joy and the struggle. Keep your chin up and be proud of yourself. Your family will be proud of you also!When you are all snuggled up in blankets with your new favorite human you just smile and tell yourself this will be a breeze.

2006-09-10 16:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by curious 1 · 0 0

Be proud of yourself for being responsible and keeping the baby! This child will ultimately be a blessing, not a burden, if you choose to view being a parent as a positive thing. Make use of the daycare. Continue college. Just be open to the idea that it might take a bit longer to finish, and that you may have to make some sacrifices. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Try talking with the parents of the other children at the college daycare. Surely you are not, nor will you be the last in your position. Look at your schedule? Can you babysit for someone else's child when you are free in exchange for them watching yours when they can? Be open and honest and talk with your current boyfriend. What about other relatives in the area? Offer what you can in exchange for a loving babysitter. Do you have a professor that you trust and would feel comfortable talking with? Use as many resouorces as you have available to you -- there are many others out there who have shared your experience. Ask your financial advisor for any additional grants or scholarship you might qualify for now that you'll be a single parent. Remember, it never hurts to ask questions, it can only hurt to be ignorant of answers.

2006-09-10 16:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by mimaolta 3 · 0 0

Keep your head up and stay in school. Your ex-will be responsible for your baby financially as well as share in the caring of the baby when you set up child support and the custody order. Your parents will eventually come around to occasionally want to babysit once they see your baby and create a bond with it. I see their point they just want you to be responsible. Sounds like you have a lot of support with school so stick it out. I'm sure if you and your new boyfriend are meant to be he'll have no trouble helping you out and loving the baby. Having a baby is a wonderful gift sometimes it comes as a surprise but a gift is still a gift. you'll be fine just keep going ahead thinking positively..you'll get through everything and in the future you'll be glad you did. I think your going to have a girl by the way!

2006-09-10 16:57:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 3 · 0 0

Seems like you live a sheltered life. If you decide to keep the baby your whole life is going to change. It's going to hard and sometimes you feel like you want to give up, but hold on. Your baby will be the most rewarding thing in you life.

2006-09-10 16:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by mommy@18 2 · 0 0

they have state run daycares that the state pays for your child to be in.....The thing is when it comes to parenting you really have to be there, It sounds like you are not going to have spare time for this baby.....that said, I understand that you don't want to give the baby up, I struggled with the same problem. you have to decide what is more important for you, and go from there. Hope this helps

2006-09-10 16:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbabygirlof1983 2 · 0 0

In Kentucky there is a program that pays for single mothers who go to school and work to have child care. You might want to check out your options in your state.

2006-09-10 16:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Let's be honest! At $10. dollars an hour! you'r making a killing. you'r parents are paying most of you'r expenditures!
We have a daughter, when she got pregnant (14 years old), we told her: we wont be your baby sitters! Well, she had the baby, the parents we're tired, old, we want our 8 hours sleep! But.who had the baby??
give your parents a break. Don't get angry, please! but if you'r grown up enough to go drinking, than you're old enough to take care of you'r baby! Sorry I had to be kind of hard on you!!

2006-09-10 16:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by alfonso 5 · 0 0

wow....ill have to say to you that you're to reliable on others, and not one thing on there you seem to do independant. You need to figure things out and quick. If your in college keep going, but still i have to pay for my own car, my own way to college, and my own place to stay. If i were 20 and living at home my mom would make me pay rent. so just think. you have it made, make the best of it

2006-09-10 16:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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