My fiance has lived with me and my boys for over a year. (he has no kids) He is very good to them, does alot for them, and also disciplines them WITH me. He works alot, so there have often been times when the kids see him very little, which leaves gaps where they have no time to bond...and they almost regress. Other times the kids have fun and stuff with him. They have never developed a bond where they say I love you or hug each other, but I dont' push that.
BUT......sometimes my fiance will walk in the house at night and say, "hey guys, what's up?" and they ignore him. They are often rude and simply act like they dont' care whether or not he's here. Sometimes, they dont' do that, it depends. I have talked to them countless times about how hurtful it is....and simply RUDE, but I am exhausted...I feel I can't put something there that "isn't" there naturally. Is this normal as far as blended families go? Will it get better? I see some step parents whose kids adore them.
2006-09-10 08:00:33 · 2 answers · asked by paintgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i would give it time and see where things go. maybe you all should go on a family trip and bond all together. maybe your fiance should take the boys fishing or do guys things and let them bond all as guys. but i think it's would get better because like it or not you and fiance would get marry and they need to learn not to be rude and stop ignore him. but i hope this help and good luck.
2006-09-10 08:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes & no.
2006-09-10 15:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋