Is marriage a joke now???

Question

In these times marriage is starting to look like a joke with peoples childess ways its nothing like the past where the vows actually meant somthing and is marriage a joke now???

Answer 1

I don't take my marriage as a joke .. needless to say I take it very seriously. I am sure others feel the same way I do.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 2

I think it is a joke for the most part. My grandparents have been married for 60+ years, and I know they've had their problems but they have stuck with it. Worked through it. That is what marriage is about. But today, when people get married, they seem to have it in their head "well if things get tough I can always get a divorce". Divorce is a simple solution that people turn to without a second thought. If you have that in mind you don't belong getting married in the first place. Or people think adultry is not that big of a deal anymore. If you're not happy then going a stray is perfectly ok, after all the other person drove you to it. It's all a joke. Divorce should be reserved for those who are abused and so on. Even being cheated on can be worked through depending on the situation. But people aren't willing to try or put the effort towards it. Marriage is not meant to be easy and as soon as people realize that maybe just maybe the dicvorce rate will go back down. There are good marriages out there yes, but too few and far between. And yes, people can fall out of love. Although I believe this can in a small way be a part of people giving up. They shut down on love in order to justify leaving a marriage they don't feel like improving. Divorce is an easy way out. I think that if you try everything to make it work and it still doesn't, then divorce can be necessary. But not just because you don't feel like trying. My mom and dad got divorced after 13 yrs, but their problems strated around 6 years, but they stuck it out as long as they could and tried. Ithink that is always important, to try. For better or for worse! right?

Answer 3

I don't think marriage is considered a joke now. I don't think that people going into the contractual agreement and then ending it with a divorce, had thought of it as a joke when they originally had entered into it. There are many variables that influence a marriage, both inside and outside. There are financial, fidelity, intimacy, extreme value or moral conflicts that make a very unhappy marital relationship.

I do think that the option to 'divorce' has been abused in the recent past, where people have been in situations where they use it as an easy out for problems that they don't want to face-but, then there are reasons why divorce became an available option in the first place.

There are people who have been and are in terriblyabusive relationships. It gives them the legal edge that is needed to break free and seek companionship elsewhere (or just to break free) that would be less so.

Also, there are some situations where if one spouse is so unhappy-and wants an out, but is willing to uphold to certain obligations of responsibility (such as the sharing of parental obligations)-why put up with or have this person continue to be so unhappy for the rest of your life, while potentially causing undo stress and misery to the other?

Answer 4

Its not a joke, and not everyone takes their marriage vows lightly the problem is that in todays society its acceptable to get a divorce, and people get a divorce at the first sign of trouble.. years ago u where shunned if u were divorce, and u were made an outcast if u were divorced... it was a disgrace.. today its no big deal.. and we've become a society of a bunch of whiney cry babies.. and so its acceptable to run for the hills every time theres trouble.. im not saying their arent good reasons to get a divorce.. but they are limited.. People today dont "live" by the marriage vows that they take.. they say them in a ceremony one day and thats as far as they go.. if people actually heard what they were saying and realized that they are suppose to live by them everyday and not when its just "CONVIENT" from them to go by there would be alot less divorces in the world

Answer 5

I don't think it is quite a joke but I think people are too focused on getting married, planning a wedding and appearing married that they loose track of what it means to be married. I do think that the meaning is different for different people but a lot of people have no clue what marriage means to them. The way I see it is that you are taking VOWS. How many times in your life do you take VOWS. To me that is huge and I would really have to contemplate the meaning of traditional vows or write my own before I stand up in front of all that is important to me and vow to be someone's wife by doing this or that. The point isn't a pretty dress and a china set it is a life-long relationship you are vowing to commit to.

Answer 6

Marriage is tuff people do fall out of love with their mate and it's nothing on them being childess but being true...you do want to grow old with someone and take those vows to heart but sometimes it just don't work...it's not a joke...it's life.

Answer 7

Not all marriages. I think they still have the same problems as they did 50 years ago. It is just that men and women are not so acceptable of turning the other cheek when it comes to infidelity and other things. Couples choose others based on things like income, if they are one of the "beautiful people, profession ie. doctor, lawyer etc. They lack communication, have addictions and never learned good moral values from the family of origin.....and the beat goes on.

Answer 8

It depends on the person or persons in concern. If one marries being ignorant of the responsibilities, liabilities, mutual understanding, sacrifice and above all the undefineable bond of love in marital relationship, then marriage is nothing more than a joke to him or her.
Otherwise, it is the difference between doglike and humanlike relationship.

Answer 9

Not my marriage. Unfortunately in this day and age, marriage has become disposable. Some people find it easier to just bail when things are not going smooth. The words "for better or worse" is taken so lightly to mean "for better, not worse". Hmmm, can we say marriage of convenience?

Answer 10

Marriage shouldn't be a joke but it has become one. My little brother just got married and it was insane...no reverend...no judge...just them!!! They went to the court house, got the papers, signed it, and signed again where the judge or reverend was supposed to sign!! thats it! No vows, no exchanging of rings, no witnesses, nodda. Now how insane is that?