I was having this debate the other day with my boyfriend...when we was talking about the future.
I think that the man should have a vesectomy because women go through alot more in life. For example, When we have sex for the first time we bleed, guys don't, we have periods, we have the cramps, we have to carry the child, give birth, have our bodies changing all the time because of it, gain weight, then our bodies are scarred from the birth, go through the menopause and even when it comes to sex, the majority of the time the man is the only one satisfied. so thats un fair aswell!
My boyfriend however thinks having the snip would make him less of a man and would be more painfull.
The vesectomy takes very little time and heals quicker, if a woman is sterilised she has to have an operation much more complex than the mans and there are more risks.
As far as I'm concerned the guy should have the snip and there should be no arguement.
My bf says 'no way' but we'll see! who agrees?
2006-09-10 07:50:40 · 16 answers · asked by toyotagirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your absolutely right! It is also a reversible surgery, if in the future he decides he wants kids! Women have to squeeze a kid out and it takes us about 6 weeks to heal after that not to mention we had to carry the baby for 9 months! For a guy having a vasectomy the healing time is much shorter! Not to mention it is done in a doctors office not in a hospital under anesthetic and in a surgery room! No hospital time either, he just gets to go home! If he truly loves you and respects you he will get the vasectomy, besides it doesn't make him any of a lesser man, and he should only worry about what you think of him not what other guys would say! Not to mention he would probably get as much sex as he would want, that is a reward for him, most guys would do anything for that. Guys don't like condoms, that's a fact! That why so many women get pregnant! I hope for his sake he will get one because in the future he will be rewarded for his self-sacrificing act over and over!
2006-09-10 08:21:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Pea 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a vasectomy after we had the family we wanted, and the operation and recovery were not bad at all (I was healed up and ready for sex a week after the snip). The sex was even better because we didn't have to worry about an unwanted pregnancy. If you bf thinks it will make him less a man then he wasn't much of a man to begin with.
2006-09-10 07:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man or woman can simplest blame their self for his or her eating sickness. Even as your busy ranting about it, and pointing your finger at "rail-skinny", you will have 3 extra fingers pointing back at your self. No one is making you wear make up both. You seem the way in which you do, because this is the best way you want to look. Should you did not wish to appear that approach, then you've the option to seem the way you wish to have too. I have no idea the place you get your know-how, however tremendous boobs don't symbolize fertility. Having kids represents fertility.
2016-08-09 14:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i don't see your logic but i do agree. My reasoning is as follows:
If a woman gets fixed....
it can make it so she loses her sex drive.
she can't have sex for at least 6 weeks.. and if she does it can kill her!
she can get major infections
and sometimes her hormones change... hello facial hair!
she has to go into the hospital for at least 2 days.
It isn't alway covered by insurance.
If a man gets fixed...
he walks into a drs office and walks out 15 minutes later sniped
he can have sex that night! or that afternoon... or 10 minutes after the snip....
covered by insurance
it can be reversed very easily
and the best reason: His wife will be so thankful that she can thank him by jumping him randomly.
I would lose the bf. My hubby and I discussed thie while dating.
2006-09-10 08:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lib 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should not be an argument; it should be a very serious DISCUSSION.
You're not even married and talking about shuttin down the man's baby-making apparatus. I don't think so.
Now if you were in a PERMANENT relationship ( legal, and all) and had several children, and the future looked good with both of you together in it, then yeah, he could get the snip and leave you to have your periods until you're 55.
But honey, you don't meet any of those criteria; you aren't getting any satisfaction, sexually, you already have a bunch of kids, you resent him being able to get off, and leave you high and dry, and you're with a man who's not ready to make a l.t commitment.
Discussion over!.
2006-09-10 08:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think whoever doesn't want anymore kids should have the snip. In my relationship my husband doesn't want anymore kids. Therefore he got the snip. Plus you're right, it is easier for them. He had the surgery on a Friday morning and was back to work on Monday. No problems what so ever.
2006-09-10 07:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) A vasectomy is the choice for birth control. It is minor surgery while female sterilization is major surgery.
2) A vasectomy is not perfect. There can be leakages, and a "snipped" man can still get you pregnant.
3) Condoms are cheap, and there is no surgery involved. Plus, they protect you from diseases. Surgery doesn't protect from diseases.
2006-09-10 07:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by Your Best Fiend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A character can handiest blame their self for his or her consuming ailment. While your busy ranting approximately it, and pointing your finger at "rail-skinny", you may have three extra palms pointing again at your self. No one is making you put on make up both. You seem the way in which you do, considering the fact that that is the way in which you desire to seem. If you did not desire to seem that manner, then you may have the option to seem the way in which you desire too. I have no idea wherein you get your know-how, however significant boobs don't constitute fertility. Having kids represents fertility.
2016-08-21 07:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by shiva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, coming from one who has had it done, there are tons of benefits for it ... your sex drive is the same or better, you dont have to wear a condom to prevent pregnancy, it hurt less than being kicked in the privates, there is very little discomfort, you can resume sex as soon as you are comfortable, if you decide you want to have more kids, a reversal is fairly easy and much cheaper, no hormone issues, you have all your parts intact, no scarring, its a local anaesthetic minor operation you can watch, takes about 15 minutes if that, your bf is a pansy ...lol
2006-09-10 08:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, tubal ligation is a much more invasive surgery with a longer recovery time. Meanwhile a vasectomy is a same day, in and out procedure.
2006-09-10 07:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Nikki T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋