I've been seperated for over a year from My ex, I haven't heard from him for over a year, I found out that he's been in jail for 2 months for drug related charges. He called Me and says he wants to try again.that he still oves me and has changed. I do still have feelings for him but I'm afraid it's all lies.
The reason we split in the first place was because of money..he didn't want to work..I totally supported him. ..you know in the vows when it says for richer and poorer..soI put up with it for awhile.
Should I give him another chance...or forget about.?
2006-09-10 07:45:19 · 26 answers · asked by Catherinefaith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is't what he wants >> girl he has burnt to many bridges and has none left I'm not saying he doesn"t love u I'm saying where do you go when you need help or a place to call home ?? right back to where he thinks someone will feel sorry enough to take him in >> are you the one >>>> think long and hard what reason does he want back in your life , also think about how your life is right now ? It sounds to me that your life is not complicated when he is not there ... girl u think about yourself someone has 2 keep the past right there girl move on don't take him back ,>> he is in jail leave him there your not responsible for his mess and he will just take u down to the gutter with him .good luck and stay away ...
2006-09-10 07:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by yvette b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if this is his first drug charge, and what kind of drugs he is doing.
Being in a relationship with an addicted person takes great emotional strength and stability. Are you strong enough to bear that til death do you part?
Are there children involved? If so well you can try, but
don't think his addiction and emotional issues are going away
just like that. Is he strong enough to change course. Are you strong enought to change with him? Is that what you want your marriage to be like?
Try it out, but there will be alot of pain. you cannot make him change;
Maybe you would be doing him a favor to move on and let him face his demons alone. Money always stresses people out.
How you cope with it makes or breaks. Good luck!
2006-09-10 08:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be looking for a caretaker. Dont' get involved other than a casual date and no more until he proves he ....stays employed for at least a year, Has his own place to live, totally self suportive, treats you as someone special and stays drug and alcohol free. Then slowly easy into a relationship. Be prepaired to pull back if you see him digressing.
2006-09-10 08:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by MoonDoggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make him prove that he is different. How does he prove it? gets a job and keeps it for 2 years then he can see you again. How do you prove that he is doing this? He has to let you see bank statements and he has to have NO dept. No car payments, no credit cards, nothing. That would be the only way I would let him back. What would happen if you got preg. and then had to house your ex and a baby? You shouldn't have to raise your EX as well as your child.
2006-09-10 07:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure give it another chance but dont let him back into the house untill u know for sure that he is a changed man.. make him prove to u hes chanced.. cause although that i hope he has changed, i fear he may just be needing somewhere to crash, and is hopeing to play on ur sympathy to move back in, just to revert to old ways.. so make him prove to u from OUTSIDE.. that he's worthy of giving this another shot..
2006-09-10 07:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also had a similar situation. Eleven years later, I realized that it would never work. I was afraid to go out on my own with two small children. Life was so much easier, I was happier, and so were the kids!!
2006-09-10 07:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by sharon_misspriss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away he is out of jail but probably can not support himself and is looking for a handout. Love is sometimes not enough. I married 3 of these fools before I figured out that I was a big sucker. Don't make my mistakes.
2006-09-10 07:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you born stupid or did you evolve to this point??? DUH!!! What is wrong with you???? Do you have low self-esteem? Why would you take this lying, manipulative jail bird back??? No, he has not "changed".....are you kidding??? People with these kinds of dysfunctions don't all of a sudden wake up a changed man! Divorce this pathetic person who calls himself a man, get counseling and make a peaceful life for yourself! If you decide to take him back.....you will get what you asked for.......so no whining! Stop trying to be his Fairy Godmother!
2006-09-10 07:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's only one question about it and that is.....Is he still doing drugs???????? If he is then no I wouldnt try again you dont need that burden...but if he is clean and sober and is going down the right path and is showing improvement without your help then yes I would try but very slowly dont rush into things...
2006-09-10 07:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what good points does he have other than a chemical reaction in your brain. honestly he didnt work and then went to jail what else has be been doing. if there are drugs involved you cannot be sure of anything. i would stay away for good if i were you.
2006-09-10 07:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋