At school we were very gud frns,never in relation with each other, later departed for carreer building,now both of us r well setteled.Moms had gud talk last month & asked for my opinion bout him,I without thinking seriously said...puri zindagi ek joker ke sath,No Way....but now I feel I'll be very happy if I get married to a known family and a jovial and lovable person.Seriously very much confused.Pls help
2006-09-10 07:37:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
friendship is a good foundation for a happy relationship. But u need to meet him frst, he may not be the same person he was in school, maybe he got better or maybe he got worse, or maybe he got serious along the way and is no longer funny ;) whtever u decide meet him first and if u still feel comfortable with him like before go fo it, and u say u know his family tht is a plus point as well. so go on a date, meet him atleast once alone and then decide. After all its ur life's decision. good luck.
2006-09-10 07:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by devilish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person being jovial and lovable are not bad characteristics in a mate. In fact, they are good qualities. You know the family, you see (or have heard) how they interact with the children they bring up, how they handle difficult situations, and how they are held, in respect (or not), within their general community. To be compatible, you really should have similar values and morals-you need to have something in common that ties you two together. Many counselors suggest asking a variety of honest questions of your potential mate, if you really want to find out if you are indeed compatible. Also, I would assume that you find this person attractive, both mentally and physically. 'Friends' are what you have been before, and a 'friend' is a good person to have as a spouse. There were reasons (incongnitive or not) that you were attracted to each other enough to be 'friends' in the first place.
Above all, you must be honest with yourself, and the other person must do the same.
Good luck and best wishes!
2006-09-10 14:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in a position where your mother is allowed to choose a spouse for you? If not, then give yourself time to become reacquainted with the person. Good friends can become good marriage partners if both are willing to build a relationship, but with the distance element (the time break since you have spent time with each other), I think that you ought to think carefully. It is too easy to be pushed into a relationship that others want you to have.
It appears as if you may be speaking some Hindi in your text. This culture still agrees to arranged marriages, which can work, since love can be built. Talk to your mother some more. Was she feeling you out on a possible arranged marriage? Or was she merely questioning your feelings on the person? If you are open to the idea of a possible relationship, give it a chance, after weighing your options through a pro/con list.
2006-09-10 14:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Beezer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on you can very well marry him 'coz its clear that you're in love with him...but since you dint meet for so long you need to meet up and get yourself reaquainted else how will you know if he's still the same old joker and sweet guy...hope you got it...now stop posting the question again and go ahead and meet him up....All the Best!! :)
2006-09-11 04:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Harish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good for you if u got a chance to get merried with the guy u live for a long time and know him much.
As you know in Indian culter you will have to merry a guy u never seen.And even if U see him ull get a chance for minut or hours only.
Even than take the decision of yr heart.
Bye bye. Dont forget to mail me if you merry the guy.lol.
Wish you all the best.
2006-09-10 14:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ravi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should carry on with the ur classmate as u might be knowing him well as u studied with him about his character, likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc., and he might also know well about you which helps each other to adjust accordingly and live happily forever in future. If u need time still to understand him then have it by keeping in touch with regularly and then develop your relationship. ok then bye have a happy and bright future. see you.
2006-09-11 10:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by PH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been apart for a while, then you need to get reacquainted before deciding to marry. Also you should ask yourself why it is important for you to be marrying into a known family.
2006-09-10 14:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by absynthian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plz change wid time.i wld suggest tht u both meet as pals 4 sumtime b4 taking the BIG LEAP.bt in anycas,final verdict is urs.so thnk gal...
2006-09-10 14:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by saibs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its love go for it but is attraction then think once again. Moreover if he is understanding then never let him go. Just marry him.
SOME JOKERS ARE REALLY GOOD SOMETIMES. :)
2006-09-10 14:54:11 · answer #9 · answered by Shashi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in your heart that this person is for you and you know what type of man he really is then I would go for it...what do you have to lose????
2006-09-10 14:42:09 · answer #10 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋