2006-09-10 07:11:58 · 27 answers · asked by johnny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your first may very well be the soul mate. However some people simply do not have the emotional stability to have sufficient security in knowing that they do not need to have been with 5 to 50 people to be sure if their first is the one to marry.
People these days are far less willing to commit than in years gone by .. everyone is always looking for the greener grass ... they just have not realized that the greener grass still needs fertilizing, mowing, raking etc.
2006-09-10 07:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times you need to experience dating many different people so that you can see what traits you like best and dislike most in other people. That is not to say you will find anyone you will love more than your first and first loves are very special, but if you will each give yourself time to date others you might find she or he is not the right one for you. This is a problem in that each person does not want to let go. But if it is true love, it will stand the test of time (say a year). Also, as people grow older, they often change (evolve) into a person with different interests, beliefs, etc especially if you are both quite young. There is no guarantee in marriage. I have known first loves who had wonderful long marriages and people who have lived together for years before marrying to end up divorced within a short time. Follow your heart but listen to your head, too.
2006-09-10 14:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lean_on_Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would marry my first - if I loved them with all of my heart. Everyone has a different view on everything - on this one - I would say they say this because when you get older you may find that you would like to expierence things with someone else because you have had the same thing all of your life. But I know several people who have married and it has lasted for 20 plus years. It is all about what you feel in your heart.
2006-09-10 14:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of people first have sex at really early ages. I didn't have my first until I was 18, but the ave. age is in the ealry to mid teens. You really don't want a 15 year old getting married....
2006-09-10 14:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by collegebusygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you wont get to experience life as much as if you were single. Most people who are young and get married usually don't get to go do things that single people get to do. I think it is okay to date several people to see which is right for you. (and dating doesn't mean you have to sleep with the person, either!)
2006-09-10 14:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, who ever they are, they need to take a look at their life and re-evaluate it i married my first (first {and last} love, first {and last} sexual partner) and we've been going strong now for 12 years and looking forward to the next 50 or more!!!!
2006-09-10 16:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by ducky71j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? I haven't heard that. Perhaps though it stems from the demoralization of our society. Few have "old-fashioned" morals anymore. My husband and I each married our first, and our "first" was the wedding night. I wouldn't have it any other way.
2006-09-10 14:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by shojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST DON'T GET MARRIED TOO YOUNG OR TOO MUCH IN A HURRY AND NOT KNOW THE PERSON. IT'S BEST TO BE OUT OF SCHOOL AND OUT ON YOUR OWN SO YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BEFORE YOU ARE A COUPLE.
2006-09-10 14:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of an over-all experience with people
2006-09-10 14:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because marring your first you wont have a diversity in who you date, and you won't REALLY know if they're the one, you could get along with someone different WAY better.
2006-09-10 14:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jason M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋