We've been married for 5 years and have a 3 year old. Life is great, but we do have our differences as every couple does. After 2 years of knowing one of my husband's friends, we both found out that we are extremely attracted to each other and enjoy each other's comapny a lot. Nothing has happened yet, but we both feel very strong about our feelings and have a hard time of not showing it. How can I feel so strong about wanting another man if I love my husband more than anything and do not ever want to hurt him. I'm just scared that one day I'll be weaker and will make the biggest mistake of my life. Please, help.
2006-09-10 07:05:57 · 10 answers · asked by HarleyDavidson 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Everyone is tempted to do immoral things for their own pleasure. Love is what gives you the strength to resist if you focus on it. Love will grow in you and give back many times what it demands if you follow it. The pursuit of pleasure will enslave you and make you miserable in the end. You are free to choose.
2006-09-10 07:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm going to be blunt and say your both idiots for having a kid when the marriage seems to be in the crapper from the get go. You never had real chemistry from the beginning that should have told you that it wasn't meant to be. If your a larger sized lady maybe it is time to drop some weight that could be a reason he has never been to keen into having sex with you and could also be a reason sex has never been all the good. This marriage seems dead and well very crippled and needs some serious TLC and if you both do not put all the effort into fixing things you might as well throw in the towel now marriage takes two. P.S. HE NEVER WANTED A BABY!!!
2016-03-17 11:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have an unfulfilled need, and you are perceiving that the friend will fill it (he may or may not). If you want to keep the relationship with your husband, you need to break it off completely with this other guy. Don't talk to him anymore, don't spend any time with him. Try to figure out what this other guy offers you that your husband doesn't. You then need to talk to your husband about how you feel. Tell him that you love your family and him, but that you feel the (whatever) isn't there.
You are already flirting with temptation. If you don't make changes in your life NOW, you will end up making the biggest mistake of your life. You are not stupid, you already know all of this. Many times the hardest decision is the right one, and sometimes we just need others to confirm it for us.
2006-09-10 07:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your probably love your husband. But your just not INLOVE with him. You you fell for another man. I think you should be honest with your husband and let him know straight up how you feel. instead of living a lie. And trying to convince yourself that you still have deep feelings foryour husband. I mean if you are extremly attracted to his friend and you guys clicked. You are virtually cheating on your husband. YYou feel that strong bond,that conenciton with his friend. you can change your feelings. remmber that's probabyl; the wya you felt when you first met your husband. That feeling of wanting someone so bad. Getting those butterflies. So i'd say you should make up your mind and not live in denial. you can love 2 people at one. Just dont hurt your husband. Let him go first.
good luck.
2006-09-10 07:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's obvious that your marriage wasn't so perfect afterall... if you're going to be so stupid to consider having sex with someone... why his friend.... are you sure he's not just convenient? I bet he's acting like he's attracted to you so he can get in your pants... nothing else. and that would mean he's not really a friend to your hubby. See you on Jerry Springer!
2006-09-10 08:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by john s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds bad, but it's normal when you have sex with same person for a long time, it gets very boring after a while, you have to try something new with your husband if you want to save your marriage
2006-09-10 07:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
back off from this relationship, you are courting disaster, and if your "friend" respects your marriage, he would not put you in this situation ... he obviously doesn't respect your husband as a friend ... sharing your feelings of attraction with him was your first mistake ... dont compound it by spending tme with him ... he doesn't really respect you either if he thinks you would cheat on your husband
2006-09-10 07:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well then tell your husband and see what he thinks.Don't be a fool and mess up everything you have because of lust.
2006-09-10 07:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok. ull feel like this for another couple months, but then ull c that ur runnin around in circles.
2006-09-10 07:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by aadil r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont do it.stop talking to him period.if you do yo husband friend you will embarrass him and he will call you a ....you no what.
2006-09-10 07:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by BIG WILLIE THE GEORGIA TITIAN 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋