im a very jelaous guy and especialy with my girlfriend ..i just get real jealous about anything...cuz im afraid i might lose her ...how do i control my jealousy???
2006-09-10 07:00:18 · 13 answers · asked by FaB 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You need to Trust your partner. If you can't, or they are giving you reason not to, Than you need to move on. Trust is the #1 answer to a good relationship. If she loves you, Than you need to trust her. Jealousy will kill a relationship faster than anything.
2006-09-10 07:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad, even the heppiest people on earth can get jealous for each other. I would suggest two things: first, the hardest thing to admit is our jealousy comes from our own insecurities. We are none of us perfect, and we all worry that our significant other will get tired of putting up with our little quirks and move on. Just don't forget that our quirks are what make us who we are, and the couples that last love each other for the quirks, not in spite of them. Work, on the things you know in the back of your mind you need to in order to become that person you ultimately want to be, but do not expect instant results. The best results take time, and working on our imperfections is what makes us better people. Second, do you have any concerns because of your girlfriend. Does any of her behavior bother you? She probably does not even realize it bothers you, or that she is even doing it, so the best way to confront any jealousy, no matter what it is from, is to talk to her. Just be sure to, and I cannot stress this enough, be honest, and do NOT get defensive. I know it is hard to share our doubts with anyone, especially our significant others, but they are the ones we should trust most. They see us at our worst, and stick around to see more. Please, talk to her. Jealousy that gets out of hand will lead to a loss of trust, and that can kill a relationship just as surely as being open with her about your jealousy can strengthen it.
2006-09-10 14:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by blackanubis9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem isn't jealousy, it's insecurity. It's normal to be jealous about certain things. But the little stuff... like some guys don't want their girlfriends to wear revealing clothing. Well, if you're secure then you know she's yours and nobody elses. My wife wears revealing clothing sometimes, and I know other guys are looking at her, but so what. They can look at her all day for all I care... they can't have her is what matters.
But some things, like if your girlfriend spent most of her time hanging out with her ex or something... well, that would make me a bit jealous. And actually, I'd think something was up too.
2006-09-10 14:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rainier 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why you're jealous and go from there. Where is it coming from, is she flirty or are you insecure. Sometimes it's the other person, but usually it's insecurity. If she is doing something inappropriate, maybe the relationship needs to end. Jealousy is a hard emotion to deal with. If it's just you, fix it and fast or you it will ruin the relationship.
2006-09-10 14:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by kudos2jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i used tobe jealous of my now-boyfriend, but that was before we were going out, no wi trust him 100%, even though he'scurrently (and for another few months) in America.. the only thing i can do now is trust him and i think that's als the most important factor in a relationship.. without trust you have NOTHING! I'm not sure what to advise you on, except maybe talk to your girldfriend about your jealousy (but before that you need to find out what exactly itis that makes you jeaous (eg: the people she meets, or the clothes she wears?).. anyways, I wish you all the best and you NEED to learn to trust her otherwise i cant imagine it working out.. it's up to you now to solve your problem, all th bestand good luck ;-)
2006-09-10 14:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to find something that will take your mind of of her
if you become over barring then that wont help the relationship
My husband is very jealous and we have been together going on 10 yrs
My trick for him was to let him know that i was telling the trust about where i am and what i am doing After a while he just stopped checking up on me because he was confident that if i told him i was going somewhere that is where i would be
it a trust thing
now it is a whole different if she gives you a reason to be jealous
2006-09-10 14:12:03 · answer #6 · answered by jenniferevans32 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just think if you keep getting jealous of her and stuff you might lose her.
2006-09-10 14:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by masterurownmind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put yourself n her shoes. how would you feel if she was like that wit you? just know that shes wit you, and no one else. MOST OF THE TIME ITS JUST YOUR HEAD,
2006-09-10 14:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by tirza214 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get more girlfriends then you wont worry about one so much LOL
2006-09-10 14:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by mike L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that she is not a possession
2006-09-10 14:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋