My best friend, is awesome and all... I love her to death. But she constantly makes excusses not to hang out with me. She constantly lets me down and it really bothers me. Just today she did and she told me that she can't hang because she's gotten no sleep this week because of school and work. I don't know what's worse... that I don't believe her or that she might be making that up because she doesn't wanna see me.
Have you ever had a friend or situation like that? What should I do?
2006-09-10 06:37:14 · 17 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We're not dating.
We won't. We know that.
Don't even consider that I have feelings for her in another way. It's just not like that. At all.
2006-09-10 07:24:18 · update #1
I didn't had a friend or a situation like this, but I think you should try to talk with her and tell here what do you think about what she does and after that let her to try to explain why is she doing this.
2006-09-10 06:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Eri 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop making plans to hangout with her is what u do, find someone who will take and make time for u. She doesn't want to hangout with u and she won't say because either she's a chicken or she wants u to figure it out for ur self ( and seems like u have done that)
So stop calling or emailing her, when u see her in school or out don't react just wave and keep walking or doing what ur doing. once she see that ur not feeling her anymore it will bother her and she may come to u and ask " whatsup" if this should happen acat like it's nothing and say " oh I just don;t have time to hangout or talk" and also act as if ur too busy to talk say Oh sorry I'll have to talk to u later, Im busy right now. Let her see what it feels like to be pushed aside.
2006-09-10 07:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you calling her all the time? Are you always popping in on her unexpected? Maybe she feels a little smothered by you. I know it sounds bad, but sometimes girls just need a breather. Back off for a while and let her be the one to call you. Sometimes when one starts doing things differently it gets the attention of the other one who sees it. Are your intentions toward her truly for friendship? She may not feel that way and that could be why she has been doing this.
Just give it a little time and see where it goes.
2006-09-10 06:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by dizzyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise a very direct approach. I myself am shy and don't like confrontational situations, but you should really just ask how she feels. If she really doesn't want to be around u any more then it doesn't matter if she was insulted by it and you've made both of ur lives easier. If she does still want to be your friend then whatever pain this question will cause her cannot be compared to what your going through as of now. This is just what i'd do.
2006-09-10 06:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. I would tell her that when she gets the time to let you know and that you miss spending time together and are rather dissapointed with her cancelling
! I wouldn't set up any plans than let her make them, If she cancels than I would call less and less, she will either come around or you will decide that you need more friends! Good luck!
2006-09-10 06:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
few advises
* she maybe has a bf . so she doesnot want to hang out with u anymore. ( u should understand that)
* she want to pay all attention on school < I have experience, my assignment in school can really make me not sleep for 3 days , dying > so I understand her in this part.
* she hate u. so she doesnot want to hang out with u anymore
*Her parents donot allow her to go out with u !
btw, u said she is constantly put u down, sometime that show she loves u too, ( some girl do that)
I wish it help, GOOD LUCK !!
2006-09-10 06:45:37 · answer #6 · answered by KAREN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend may be slightly depressed. If she doesn't want to meet up what is she doing instead. If she's staying in then maybe she can't face going out. Or could she have a secret boyfriend that she doesn't want you to know about?
2006-09-10 06:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by laney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of things like that, but maybe she just might be telling the truth? School and work is hard. and if she is ditching you then just stop calling her and let her come to you. If she is ditching you then she's trying to get some space. Just call less.
2006-09-10 06:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her! say I love you to death but you need to change. DON'T be needy or mean, but tell her she needs to start to see you more often than she has been. and yes I had a boyfriend do this, and I said that and we broken up but we're expecting a baby + we'er better friends now than before!
2006-09-10 06:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by lill_angel_07_88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm....this is a problem....but I didn't understand something...do you really see her as a best friend or are you actually in love with her? but I agree with others...you should ask her straight and except the answer if it's bad or good...maybe she really doesn't have time....anyway, ask her straight and let her explain her reasons....
Good luck! :)
2006-09-10 07:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by *snowflake* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋